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New here and looking for some advice please

Careroftwo

First of all hi all and thank you for taking the time to read my post

I am a career for my 4 yr old son who has been diagnosed with asc and my partner also recently diagnosed with aspergers syndrome 

Well I'll get straight to the point my son was diagnosed in jan this year after 15 months on the pathway he also may have ADHD but can not be assessed for this until school age he is currently waiting to hear about a statuary assessment process to attend a specialist school in the local area I have come to terms that my son is unique and special in his own way but I am really struggling with his behaviour we have been referred to occupational therapist and a sleep counciler for his sensorya issues and his sleep problems but I don't know where toreturn to for help in disaplining him and what methods for when he's inappropriate we do have timeout which we use but he thinks everything is a game which just results in us all getting frustratedwhich results in him physically hurting myself or his brother the dog or himself I have bruises all over due to this as I'd rather he took it out on myself than the others but it's becoming harder with him getting older and stronger we have just started using pec cards but they are still new to myself so struggling a bit to get used to them but I was wondering if anyone else has any strategies that worked for their child to learn they are doing wrong? As I don't know who else to asAmanda just feel in a never ending cycle at the moment and on the brink of a nervous break down especially as he is constantly on the move so hard to attain attention from him and no sense of danger at all I found his bedroom window wide open a couple ofa nights ago and he just doesn't see the dangers and when out hits people for sitting next to him and is very rude i know he doesn't understand but how can I make him see this isn't acceptable behaviour? 

Thank you for any advice possible

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  • Hi Careroftwo, First of all, you are not alone! The level of discipline depends on the child's receptive and expressive language ability. We have a daughter who is 5 with asd. She has been on a weekly language theraphy for over a year. Since she developed her language skills, it has been a lot easier to handle some of her behaviour. I sometimes wonder if the chart would have been as effective if we had used it a year ago. We use a behavioural chart which we print out every week. This chart contains beHaviour we would like our daughter to improve. She likes structure and likes to follow rules. Every night before bed time, we go through the chart to see how well she did in the day in the different areas. Examples of the chart contents; eat meal with good table manners, no shouting, asking for help, listening, etc. We change the contents when the desired behaviour is mastered. Believe me, it works wonders for her! Every night she looks forward to doing her chart and gets disappointed when she doesn't get a tick and promises to do better the next day, and she does better because she remembers that when she gets the required starts by the end of the week, she gets a treat, something she really enjoys or losses a privilege if she doesn't get enough stars. It might take time until they get used to the idea of the chart, but if you stick to it, it will work. Now when I say tidy up time, my daughter is the first on the case, house hold runs smoothly. Good luck.
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  • Hi Careroftwo, First of all, you are not alone! The level of discipline depends on the child's receptive and expressive language ability. We have a daughter who is 5 with asd. She has been on a weekly language theraphy for over a year. Since she developed her language skills, it has been a lot easier to handle some of her behaviour. I sometimes wonder if the chart would have been as effective if we had used it a year ago. We use a behavioural chart which we print out every week. This chart contains beHaviour we would like our daughter to improve. She likes structure and likes to follow rules. Every night before bed time, we go through the chart to see how well she did in the day in the different areas. Examples of the chart contents; eat meal with good table manners, no shouting, asking for help, listening, etc. We change the contents when the desired behaviour is mastered. Believe me, it works wonders for her! Every night she looks forward to doing her chart and gets disappointed when she doesn't get a tick and promises to do better the next day, and she does better because she remembers that when she gets the required starts by the end of the week, she gets a treat, something she really enjoys or losses a privilege if she doesn't get enough stars. It might take time until they get used to the idea of the chart, but if you stick to it, it will work. Now when I say tidy up time, my daughter is the first on the case, house hold runs smoothly. Good luck.
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