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At the End of My Tether

Fuchsia

My 15 year old daughter has struggled throughout secondary school but the last year has been a nightmare.  She got to the point where she could not tolerate being in class due to anxiety and sensory overload. She went from going to school fulltime to being on a part time timetable and is now only going into school for 2.5 hours a day which she is spending in learning support.  However, she is not being taught - she sometimes is given some worksheets by a teacher but often she is only doing work we haven given her.  My husband and I are teaching her as best we are able for her June GCSE modules.  The problem is she just can't focus to take much in at the moment.  Had a meeting last week with the SENCO, Autism Advisory Service and CAMHS.  They talked about applying for exceptional needs funding to provide teaching for her in Learning Support for Year 11.  We have just heard this has been refused.  I really don't think the school are going to be able to fund one to one teaching for her, so what is the point of her being there.  The Autism Advisory lady says it is important she keeps going to school as if she doesn't she will just be stuck at home and it will be difficult to get her back out again.  The SENCO is helpful and on our side but I think she is totally out of her depth.  Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. 

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  • I think you have to be really strong to go against the strong pressure from society to follow the crowd as they continually convince you this is the best thing for your child.... but then you remember they do not know your child and you do.

    What about asking her how she feels about the exams and perhaps doing less than planned and what she would like to do.  She may say none or having had time to consider it she may still do 1 or 2.  Maybe she would relax at home and be able to do some work rather than none.  There is a large number of kids with ASD being home schooled because they went through what your daughter is experiencing.

    You know her best, but we all can lose sight of what makes our kids happy whilst we struggle to see the wood for the trees, I know we do it regularly and have to try and rein ourselves back in. It can feel lonely when those around you disagree with your decision.  But you know it is the right decision for your child and nobody understands her like you do or will have the courage to take these difficult decisions.

    There are many ways to get an education nowadays rather than the traditional method where all have to conform.

    It must be hard on you, stay strong and believe in your judgement.

     

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  • I think you have to be really strong to go against the strong pressure from society to follow the crowd as they continually convince you this is the best thing for your child.... but then you remember they do not know your child and you do.

    What about asking her how she feels about the exams and perhaps doing less than planned and what she would like to do.  She may say none or having had time to consider it she may still do 1 or 2.  Maybe she would relax at home and be able to do some work rather than none.  There is a large number of kids with ASD being home schooled because they went through what your daughter is experiencing.

    You know her best, but we all can lose sight of what makes our kids happy whilst we struggle to see the wood for the trees, I know we do it regularly and have to try and rein ourselves back in. It can feel lonely when those around you disagree with your decision.  But you know it is the right decision for your child and nobody understands her like you do or will have the courage to take these difficult decisions.

    There are many ways to get an education nowadays rather than the traditional method where all have to conform.

    It must be hard on you, stay strong and believe in your judgement.

     

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