Were not teaching him, were containing him...

That is what his teacher said at my 10 yr old sons parents evening! Diagnosed with ADHD (Age 5), Dyspraxia (age 6) and is being tested for Autism in a few days. Which i believe he has always had its just taken me 10 yrs to get anyone to listen. I feel this is a very telling statement about my sons education or lack of it. He has always struggled within the school setting. He was unable to read until he was 8 and his writing looks like a child of 5. He has major confidence issues when it comes to writing and it can take him an hour just to write the date at the top of the page. His teacher then sends home any work that is not completed so we have to deal with it at home. His I.E.P states he should only have to write 3 sentances at a time yet his teacher is expecting full complete stories! When he brings it home we can spend 5 hours trying to complete even the smallest amount, it is a battle of wills, he kicks, screams, crys and tells me he wishs he was never born! I dont think its fair that it gets sent home and have told them i do not wish 'extra' work to be sent home. It creates tension and we have enough of that! I have tried to get him statemented but this was at a time when the budget was cut in the area and a lot of people were laid off. Including the one looking into my sons case, this was never picked back up for months. Then i was told it is not possible to statement him because he is not showing any violence or mallace towards the other kids!!! HE NEEDS one because he is unable to complete ANY work without the help of an assistant. When he gets to work 1-1 he is fab, he will do what is expected of him. I dont think he has had an education, he is a VERY bright little boy and has the ability but nothing to show for it. WHAT CAN I DO...Is it worth considering home schooling? do i change schools? he goes to big school next year, do i just leave it till then... im at my witts end :( He is a little boy who deserves and education but is not recieving one. It makes me very very sad and angry. anyone in the same boat?? Loulabell xx