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Invisable aspbergers?

AuraTodd
Imagine the situation. You suffer from Aspbergers and your with a group of people at a support centre. In comes another support worker who is friendly enough, but gives you funny looks because she/he thinks you don't fit the criteria for support; yet you do need support.
It's bad enough when your stared at through narrowed eyes, like their saying 'why does she need help for? There's nothing wrong with her'. But THERE is because it's bad enough feeling like your in a box ...in social situations staring out being judged for what you can and can't do.
Feeling like your not being wanted and feeling embarrassed because you had the courage to admit you had a problem, is not easy. Being made to feel like 'you don't need to be here' when you do is pretty deflating to a condition which is not helped any better by the attitude of 'we can't help you, you just don't fit the bloody bill'.
What do I need to do to prove my autism, it's hard enough trying to get across what I mean. Then people jump the gun and misunderstand what you are talking about, hang on you've got the wrong end of the stick. Do you know or even realise how frustrating it is trying to get people even understand autism in adults? Would you rather we all end up in asylums like back in the 19th century?
A bit of compassion would be nice, surprisingly even some Dr's from the older generation fail to recognise metal health or Aspbergers. Please be patient with adults with Aspbergers, don't get annoyed or impatient. If you do then your in the wrong profession, maybe retail or extra training would suit you better?

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    Robert124 said:

    I have been told more recently that my problem is that people give off invisible vibes.  That other people can sense.  And I give off a negative vibe and that there is something different and wrong about me.

    That is one of the main problems for people with autism. We don't have the extra sense (over sight, hearing, touch etc) that enables the majority of people to know when another person is happy, upset, just wants to chill etc. My way of understanding it is that we just don't have the bit of wiring in the brain that enables most people to put the non verbal cues together and then form a coherent response. We also don't know how to use facial expressions usefully so a lot of people with autism have blank, expressionless faces that can be a bit off-putting to other people. I was told off at primary school for always looking serious. That comment only makes sense to me now, 50 years later. I now make a much more conscious effort to smile at people and to look at their faces even though I probably can't get much useful info from doing that.

    (PS - I'm not sure of the OP is aware but there is no B in Asperger's)

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    Robert124 said:

    I have been told more recently that my problem is that people give off invisible vibes.  That other people can sense.  And I give off a negative vibe and that there is something different and wrong about me.

    That is one of the main problems for people with autism. We don't have the extra sense (over sight, hearing, touch etc) that enables the majority of people to know when another person is happy, upset, just wants to chill etc. My way of understanding it is that we just don't have the bit of wiring in the brain that enables most people to put the non verbal cues together and then form a coherent response. We also don't know how to use facial expressions usefully so a lot of people with autism have blank, expressionless faces that can be a bit off-putting to other people. I was told off at primary school for always looking serious. That comment only makes sense to me now, 50 years later. I now make a much more conscious effort to smile at people and to look at their faces even though I probably can't get much useful info from doing that.

    (PS - I'm not sure of the OP is aware but there is no B in Asperger's)

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