HungryCaterpillar said:It's a sad state of affairs that even the most well-intentioned of neurotypicals just don't seem to get us - they really can't empathise (or even want to empathise) with our perspective. Rather, it's always about our adapting to fit their model.
Funnily, I'm on a similar job training scheme myself right now (which I'm finding exceptionally slow and frustrating). There's a young lady on the course whereby my 'autism radar' is going off the scale. She's intelligent, resourceful, insightful and creative - yet is branded a 'trouble maker' as she just lacks the tiny social nuances that enable her to fit in. Rather, she's clearly annoying the tutor, and I keep thinking, "just play the game, just play the game and it'll make it so much easier for you".
From your experience, what would be the best thing I could do for this young lady (e.g. don't raise the autism issue and let her get on with things on her own, or 'come out' to her myself, letting her know she has a possible ally etc)?
I would never mention autism by name in a ordinary social situation. That would probably make situations worse. The exception is if the other person brings up the subject first.
HungryCaterpillar said:It's a sad state of affairs that even the most well-intentioned of neurotypicals just don't seem to get us - they really can't empathise (or even want to empathise) with our perspective. Rather, it's always about our adapting to fit their model.
Funnily, I'm on a similar job training scheme myself right now (which I'm finding exceptionally slow and frustrating). There's a young lady on the course whereby my 'autism radar' is going off the scale. She's intelligent, resourceful, insightful and creative - yet is branded a 'trouble maker' as she just lacks the tiny social nuances that enable her to fit in. Rather, she's clearly annoying the tutor, and I keep thinking, "just play the game, just play the game and it'll make it so much easier for you".
From your experience, what would be the best thing I could do for this young lady (e.g. don't raise the autism issue and let her get on with things on her own, or 'come out' to her myself, letting her know she has a possible ally etc)?
I would never mention autism by name in a ordinary social situation. That would probably make situations worse. The exception is if the other person brings up the subject first.