Invisable aspbergers?

Imagine the situation. You suffer from Aspbergers and your with a group of people at a support centre. In comes another support worker who is friendly enough, but gives you funny looks because she/he thinks you don't fit the criteria for support; yet you do need support.
It's bad enough when your stared at through narrowed eyes, like their saying 'why does she need help for? There's nothing wrong with her'. But THERE is because it's bad enough feeling like your in a box ...in social situations staring out being judged for what you can and can't do.
Feeling like your not being wanted and feeling embarrassed because you had the courage to admit you had a problem, is not easy. Being made to feel like 'you don't need to be here' when you do is pretty deflating to a condition which is not helped any better by the attitude of 'we can't help you, you just don't fit the bloody bill'.
What do I need to do to prove my autism, it's hard enough trying to get across what I mean. Then people jump the gun and misunderstand what you are talking about, hang on you've got the wrong end of the stick. Do you know or even realise how frustrating it is trying to get people even understand autism in adults? Would you rather we all end up in asylums like back in the 19th century?
A bit of compassion would be nice, surprisingly even some Dr's from the older generation fail to recognise metal health or Aspbergers. Please be patient with adults with Aspbergers, don't get annoyed or impatient. If you do then your in the wrong profession, maybe retail or extra training would suit you better?

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  • HungryCaterpillar said:

    That's awful Robert123.

    Did you have any idea of just what specific behaviours you were doing 'wrong' at all?

    If not, did they provide any sort of constructive feedback? After all, saying you're "not fitting in" doesn't actually say anything - it doesn't give you specific feedback from which you can adapt your behaviour and model future behaviour. That's just harsh.

    I must admit, I'm not a fan of such training schemes (or the JobCentre)... as they seem ill-equipped at the best of times, never mind when dealing with ND's. I remember trying to explain my autism to one of the JobCentre Advisors, who immediatly interrupted, stating "yeah, well, I'm probably somewhere on the spectrum too, yet I manage to come into work don't I..."

    This happened in 2001, I think.  So I have got better at being normal.

    As for what I did wrong ?  Hygiene and dress was ok, I tried to interact with the other people.  Problems started on the first day when we were asked to use a word processor on a computer, the task was to type in a letter.  I just got on with it and typed at my normal speed.  Other people were struggling badly and were getting help from the training staff.  After that the trainers never spoke to me just gave me funny looks.

    As for feed back why I didn't fit in.  "Not fitting in" was the feedback after I pressed the issue.

    Initially the discussion was that they just didn't want me there and would I leave voluntarily. 

    I tend to fit in better in some groups such as mental health group sessions.  But that doesn't help me much in ordinary life.

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  • HungryCaterpillar said:

    That's awful Robert123.

    Did you have any idea of just what specific behaviours you were doing 'wrong' at all?

    If not, did they provide any sort of constructive feedback? After all, saying you're "not fitting in" doesn't actually say anything - it doesn't give you specific feedback from which you can adapt your behaviour and model future behaviour. That's just harsh.

    I must admit, I'm not a fan of such training schemes (or the JobCentre)... as they seem ill-equipped at the best of times, never mind when dealing with ND's. I remember trying to explain my autism to one of the JobCentre Advisors, who immediatly interrupted, stating "yeah, well, I'm probably somewhere on the spectrum too, yet I manage to come into work don't I..."

    This happened in 2001, I think.  So I have got better at being normal.

    As for what I did wrong ?  Hygiene and dress was ok, I tried to interact with the other people.  Problems started on the first day when we were asked to use a word processor on a computer, the task was to type in a letter.  I just got on with it and typed at my normal speed.  Other people were struggling badly and were getting help from the training staff.  After that the trainers never spoke to me just gave me funny looks.

    As for feed back why I didn't fit in.  "Not fitting in" was the feedback after I pressed the issue.

    Initially the discussion was that they just didn't want me there and would I leave voluntarily. 

    I tend to fit in better in some groups such as mental health group sessions.  But that doesn't help me much in ordinary life.

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