Invisable aspbergers?

Imagine the situation. You suffer from Aspbergers and your with a group of people at a support centre. In comes another support worker who is friendly enough, but gives you funny looks because she/he thinks you don't fit the criteria for support; yet you do need support.
It's bad enough when your stared at through narrowed eyes, like their saying 'why does she need help for? There's nothing wrong with her'. But THERE is because it's bad enough feeling like your in a box ...in social situations staring out being judged for what you can and can't do.
Feeling like your not being wanted and feeling embarrassed because you had the courage to admit you had a problem, is not easy. Being made to feel like 'you don't need to be here' when you do is pretty deflating to a condition which is not helped any better by the attitude of 'we can't help you, you just don't fit the bloody bill'.
What do I need to do to prove my autism, it's hard enough trying to get across what I mean. Then people jump the gun and misunderstand what you are talking about, hang on you've got the wrong end of the stick. Do you know or even realise how frustrating it is trying to get people even understand autism in adults? Would you rather we all end up in asylums like back in the 19th century?
A bit of compassion would be nice, surprisingly even some Dr's from the older generation fail to recognise metal health or Aspbergers. Please be patient with adults with Aspbergers, don't get annoyed or impatient. If you do then your in the wrong profession, maybe retail or extra training would suit you better?

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  • AuraTodd said:

    Did the support worker say or do something which made you feel as if you were being negatively judged or unfairly treated, or was it more of a feeling you had?

    There were three of us plus her, but she didn't really aknowledge me.  Perhaps it was me.

    Is there any member of staff at the support centre who you trust that you could talk to about this?

    No I don't go there anymore, I was never good at getting what I actually meant across.

    I find photography very relaxing

    So do I, but I'm never taken seriously

    I always had problems at school and in employment because I don't fit in.

    Same here, most people thought because I was quiet that I was stuck up.

    Sorry for the rant.

    No worries mate


    Yes.  This whole fitting in thing!!!

    Don't fit in with the NTs.   Don't fit in with the 'non NTs' what does one do ?

    It's like falling through the cracks.  Except the cracks are like wide canyons.

    My most embarrassing experience of being excluded was a retail job training scheme.  I tried to fit in with the other trainees but the real problem was with the staff doing the training.  Right from the start I noticed that they were avoiding in engaging with me.  Other trainees were called in for personal interviews along the way.  I was not. At the end of the week I was called in for an interview with the head of the centre itself.  And asked/told to leave.

    I asked for reasons why.  I turned up on time every day and did everything that was asked. And if I left of my own free will or was thrown out.  The job centre would stop my benefits.

    I was eventually told that, I didn't fit in with other rest of the group, I didn't belong there, the training staff were terrified of me and I wouldn't get a job in retail in a million years.  So there was no point in me being on this training scheme.  Just leave!

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  • AuraTodd said:

    Did the support worker say or do something which made you feel as if you were being negatively judged or unfairly treated, or was it more of a feeling you had?

    There were three of us plus her, but she didn't really aknowledge me.  Perhaps it was me.

    Is there any member of staff at the support centre who you trust that you could talk to about this?

    No I don't go there anymore, I was never good at getting what I actually meant across.

    I find photography very relaxing

    So do I, but I'm never taken seriously

    I always had problems at school and in employment because I don't fit in.

    Same here, most people thought because I was quiet that I was stuck up.

    Sorry for the rant.

    No worries mate


    Yes.  This whole fitting in thing!!!

    Don't fit in with the NTs.   Don't fit in with the 'non NTs' what does one do ?

    It's like falling through the cracks.  Except the cracks are like wide canyons.

    My most embarrassing experience of being excluded was a retail job training scheme.  I tried to fit in with the other trainees but the real problem was with the staff doing the training.  Right from the start I noticed that they were avoiding in engaging with me.  Other trainees were called in for personal interviews along the way.  I was not. At the end of the week I was called in for an interview with the head of the centre itself.  And asked/told to leave.

    I asked for reasons why.  I turned up on time every day and did everything that was asked. And if I left of my own free will or was thrown out.  The job centre would stop my benefits.

    I was eventually told that, I didn't fit in with other rest of the group, I didn't belong there, the training staff were terrified of me and I wouldn't get a job in retail in a million years.  So there was no point in me being on this training scheme.  Just leave!

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