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That horrible feeling

shoekitten

Today at work I just felt out of sorts. It seemed that colleagues were blanking me ie hugging each other hello but I got a vague "hi", when I asked how everyones weekend was no one bothered to answer but seemed to be having an animated chat amongst themselves. My supervisor seemed to make a few pointed remarks about 'a bad atmosphere' though I wasn't aware of any problems. In my mind it seemed to be directed at me.

I've had a horrible sinking feeling in my stomach, thinking I did something really wrong that no one has spoken to me about. Also I feel paranoid, as if every move I make is being watched. Am I alone? Is this an AS thing?

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  • If I could come back again regarding Nick Dubin's book on Bullying, 3 posts back on this thread.

    Although the book addresses bullying in school, it seems equally applicable to workplace bullying. Having experienced both school and workplace bullying, looking back the circumstances are very similar. It's all about my asperger traits, including sensitivity to noise and sudden movements, anxiety and clumsiness. 

    It must seems as if I'm a marketing agent for Jessica Kingsley Publishers but then again most books come from them, and I can strongly recomment Nick Dubin's book to both parents of children being bullied at school and adults being buullied at work.

    Chapter 3 is about empowering victims.  Special interests, propensity for meltdowns in stressful situations, tendancy to seek help from authority figures more than peers,tendancy due to non-verbal communication difficulties to unintentionally draw attention of bullies or give them cause, etc etc.

    One issue he covers which seems important whether school or work. Because people with AS are less successful forming friendships, including oppositre sex friendships they get labelled "gay". However for the same reasons AS people may not be aware they are being so labelled. It is one major issue with school age children that I wonder if parents are picking up. A lot of kids bullied at school are bullied because odd translates as "gay".

    This may also be one of the issues when people are bullied at work.

    I was taught self-defence while at school - daft strategy to reduce bullying. Being clumsy and poorly coordinated it just made me more of a target- good entertainment.

    I guess a lot of AS situations are more solvable than people think. They may be overwhelming, but there is enough literature and help out there.

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  • If I could come back again regarding Nick Dubin's book on Bullying, 3 posts back on this thread.

    Although the book addresses bullying in school, it seems equally applicable to workplace bullying. Having experienced both school and workplace bullying, looking back the circumstances are very similar. It's all about my asperger traits, including sensitivity to noise and sudden movements, anxiety and clumsiness. 

    It must seems as if I'm a marketing agent for Jessica Kingsley Publishers but then again most books come from them, and I can strongly recomment Nick Dubin's book to both parents of children being bullied at school and adults being buullied at work.

    Chapter 3 is about empowering victims.  Special interests, propensity for meltdowns in stressful situations, tendancy to seek help from authority figures more than peers,tendancy due to non-verbal communication difficulties to unintentionally draw attention of bullies or give them cause, etc etc.

    One issue he covers which seems important whether school or work. Because people with AS are less successful forming friendships, including oppositre sex friendships they get labelled "gay". However for the same reasons AS people may not be aware they are being so labelled. It is one major issue with school age children that I wonder if parents are picking up. A lot of kids bullied at school are bullied because odd translates as "gay".

    This may also be one of the issues when people are bullied at work.

    I was taught self-defence while at school - daft strategy to reduce bullying. Being clumsy and poorly coordinated it just made me more of a target- good entertainment.

    I guess a lot of AS situations are more solvable than people think. They may be overwhelming, but there is enough literature and help out there.

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