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That horrible feeling

shoekitten

Today at work I just felt out of sorts. It seemed that colleagues were blanking me ie hugging each other hello but I got a vague "hi", when I asked how everyones weekend was no one bothered to answer but seemed to be having an animated chat amongst themselves. My supervisor seemed to make a few pointed remarks about 'a bad atmosphere' though I wasn't aware of any problems. In my mind it seemed to be directed at me.

I've had a horrible sinking feeling in my stomach, thinking I did something really wrong that no one has spoken to me about. Also I feel paranoid, as if every move I make is being watched. Am I alone? Is this an AS thing?

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  • It has occurred to me to ask, re the other thread on bullying at work, you said you had been to an occupational health meeting arising out of your previous disclosure.

    The reaction you've just had..... remarks about a bad atmosphere, and them appearing to distance you.... might just be because they've been hauled in for a telling off over the Occupational Health meeting.

    One of the consolations you may have with this is that every now and then they will try to make a complaint, and when it is investigated and found to be made up of hearsay, niggles and other nonsense, they'll get a telling off. Management being management, they may give you a token telling off so justice seems to have been fairly distributed, but as long as you've kept everything subdued and professional on your side of things that's nothing to what they'll be getting.

    So the cold reaction may be the aftermath of them being told off. And management may be coming round to realising they aren't nice, and might just be wise enough to split them up and reassign some of them jobs elsewhere.

    I also recall reading somewhere that this workplace dealt with disabled issues. There needs to be particular attention to bullying issues for any disability organisation to fund credibly. Imagine the damage to such an organisation if it got out that they didn't practice what they preached.

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  • It has occurred to me to ask, re the other thread on bullying at work, you said you had been to an occupational health meeting arising out of your previous disclosure.

    The reaction you've just had..... remarks about a bad atmosphere, and them appearing to distance you.... might just be because they've been hauled in for a telling off over the Occupational Health meeting.

    One of the consolations you may have with this is that every now and then they will try to make a complaint, and when it is investigated and found to be made up of hearsay, niggles and other nonsense, they'll get a telling off. Management being management, they may give you a token telling off so justice seems to have been fairly distributed, but as long as you've kept everything subdued and professional on your side of things that's nothing to what they'll be getting.

    So the cold reaction may be the aftermath of them being told off. And management may be coming round to realising they aren't nice, and might just be wise enough to split them up and reassign some of them jobs elsewhere.

    I also recall reading somewhere that this workplace dealt with disabled issues. There needs to be particular attention to bullying issues for any disability organisation to fund credibly. Imagine the damage to such an organisation if it got out that they didn't practice what they preached.

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