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That horrible feeling

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Today at work I just felt out of sorts. It seemed that colleagues were blanking me ie hugging each other hello but I got a vague "hi", when I asked how everyones weekend was no one bothered to answer but seemed to be having an animated chat amongst themselves. My supervisor seemed to make a few pointed remarks about 'a bad atmosphere' though I wasn't aware of any problems. In my mind it seemed to be directed at me.

I've had a horrible sinking feeling in my stomach, thinking I did something really wrong that no one has spoken to me about. Also I feel paranoid, as if every move I make is being watched. Am I alone? Is this an AS thing?

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  • Also I mentioned Nick Dubin's book on another thread recently - Bullying - Strategies and Solutions, Jessica Kingsley Publishers 2007. I've found this very useful for getting insights about myself in these situations.

    He has a section headed "Terror magnified for the person with Asperger's" p62-63, in which he makes some really good points. People with AS have "difficulty tolerating transition or surprises" - bullies tend to play on this. As people with AS are very sensitive they are more vulnerable so the effect of bullying is "cumulatively more draining, exhausting, and frightening". Thirdly we are "black-and-white thinkers" and "may think the worst even if another person is being playful".

    I hope I've not contravened copyright or anything by including these quotes,. But I think Dubin puts it well.

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  • Also I mentioned Nick Dubin's book on another thread recently - Bullying - Strategies and Solutions, Jessica Kingsley Publishers 2007. I've found this very useful for getting insights about myself in these situations.

    He has a section headed "Terror magnified for the person with Asperger's" p62-63, in which he makes some really good points. People with AS have "difficulty tolerating transition or surprises" - bullies tend to play on this. As people with AS are very sensitive they are more vulnerable so the effect of bullying is "cumulatively more draining, exhausting, and frightening". Thirdly we are "black-and-white thinkers" and "may think the worst even if another person is being playful".

    I hope I've not contravened copyright or anything by including these quotes,. But I think Dubin puts it well.

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