That horrible feeling

I think I said on another posting, this is familiar ground. I've been in the same predicament a few times myself.

Perhaps what you are up against is a clique. The clique depends on everyone thinking and acting the same way. It appears amorphous but usually isn't. It is an adult version of playground bullies. There will be one dominant person, several acolytes, and some who "go with the flow" for their own safety.

They have perceived you as different - won't conform to the little in-crowd games they play. Also if there's something wrong with you - like suspected AS - you're not "normal" and that don't want to want to work with someone not normal. So in fact its discrimination. But it will be made to look like you don't fit in.

I know this is hard, but it is of paramount importance you don't react. Don't get angry. Don't seek solice with anyone in or near this clique. Find a supporter outside work if you want to talk things through regularly. They are hoping you will gibe them a stronger excuse than they've got for getting you sacked.

If you can keep calm about this, and I can anticipate how you are feeling, you can survive this, but it will be tough. If they are trying to lock you out it is because they've no real case against you and are hoping you will provide a better excuse. That's why you have to stay calm.

Keep a record of everything said and done to you. But keep it discretely. Don't leave anything lying around they can use against you and don't let them see you writing things down.

Be meticulous in your work and try not to give them an excuse. They may try to set you up for a fall. They may try to make out you are not doing your job properly. But at the moment the reason they are trying to make you feel uncomfortable and scared, is because they've nothing they can use against you.

Contact Citizen's Advice or otherwise get a solicitor. If you can get another job get it. OK that way they get what they want - yiou leaving. But you have to accept that this is going to be a long hard fight if you try to "stick through it".

In the end, after living with a number of such encounters I realised you have to see them through. The consolation is, in the worst case of a clique I had to work with, one is dead, one is insane, one has got himself into trouble in a succession of jobs, and the fourth is now on his second marriage breakdown. That is, the clique was formed of nasty people with a lot worse problems than As,. And they weren't all equal. They harmed each other more than me.

And NAS moderators - please help in situations like this. This is precisely why it is hard for people on the spectrum to hold down jobs. Stop talking about the statistics. Start pursuing action.

I think I said on another posting, this is familiar ground. I've been in the same predicament a few times myself.

Perhaps what you are up against is a clique. The clique depends on everyone thinking and acting the same way. It appears amorphous but usually isn't. It is an adult version of playground bullies. There will be one dominant person, several acolytes, and some who "go with the flow" for their own safety.

They have perceived you as different - won't conform to the little in-crowd games they play. Also if there's something wrong with you - like suspected AS - you're not "normal" and that don't want to want to work with someone not normal. So in fact its discrimination. But it will be made to look like you don't fit in.

I know this is hard, but it is of paramount importance you don't react. Don't get angry. Don't seek solice with anyone in or near this clique. Find a supporter outside work if you want to talk things through regularly. They are hoping you will gibe them a stronger excuse than they've got for getting you sacked.

If you can keep calm about this, and I can anticipate how you are feeling, you can survive this, but it will be tough. If they are trying to lock you out it is because they've no real case against you and are hoping you will provide a better excuse. That's why you have to stay calm.

Keep a record of everything said and done to you. But keep it discretely. Don't leave anything lying around they can use against you and don't let them see you writing things down.

Be meticulous in your work and try not to give them an excuse. They may try to set you up for a fall. They may try to make out you are not doing your job properly. But at the moment the reason they are trying to make you feel uncomfortable and scared, is because they've nothing they can use against you.

Contact Citizen's Advice or otherwise get a solicitor. If you can get another job get it. OK that way they get what they want - yiou leaving. But you have to accept that this is going to be a long hard fight if you try to "stick through it".

In the end, after living with a number of such encounters I realised you have to see them through. The consolation is, in the worst case of a clique I had to work with, one is dead, one is insane, one has got himself into trouble in a succession of jobs, and the fourth is now on his second marriage breakdown. That is, the clique was formed of nasty people with a lot worse problems than As,. And they weren't all equal. They harmed each other more than me.

And NAS moderators - please help in situations like this. This is precisely why it is hard for people on the spectrum to hold down jobs. Stop talking about the statistics. Start pursuing action.