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Jemima86

we haven't had a good we. Monday my 6yo son was diagnosed as being on the spectrum and even though it was expected, I'm a health visit and we'd had lots of input from Educational psychologist and school, the news still came with a bang. Also this week me and my partner of 3 years have split up and we are temporarily with my parents until we find somewhere to live. I knew this would be tough on my little boy who already struggles with change but for two days he has been inconsolabel, meltdowns and disobedienc. He's extremely sensitive and it's heartbreaking for me to see him like this. I'm trying to be understanding and give lots of cuddles, letting him talk about his feelings etc but can anyone give me any advice on how to help him?? Im still trying to get the diagnosis under my belt too.

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  • Thank you both for replying. alice those are helpful tips and I will certainly embrace the 'safe place' idea. recombinantsock, in answer to your question, I am a health visitor of three years so I know a little bit about Autism but to be directly responsible for someone with these needs is completely different isn't it? On Saturday, my sisters and I took our five children to a local easter fair. The five kids went into a 'shack' ride with twisting and moving apparatus in. I immediately regretted lettinghim go in and within a minute I could hear my sons terrified screams. I couldn't get in the door easily as they were too small, but once I had shoved my way in calling to him all the time I'm coming, he was beyond consoling. I got him out and it took me and my sister about 20 minutes to get him out that state. As a mother it was extremely difficult and painful to see. 

    He's started to settle at my parents now and the easter bunny yesterday helped but I know when we move again to our own place it's going to upset him again. I will try that safe place and I know lots of preparation will help. What else can I do to help him deal with the changes? I looked at social stories but the only site I could find cost £50 for an annual membership. Thanks again for your help.

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  • Thank you both for replying. alice those are helpful tips and I will certainly embrace the 'safe place' idea. recombinantsock, in answer to your question, I am a health visitor of three years so I know a little bit about Autism but to be directly responsible for someone with these needs is completely different isn't it? On Saturday, my sisters and I took our five children to a local easter fair. The five kids went into a 'shack' ride with twisting and moving apparatus in. I immediately regretted lettinghim go in and within a minute I could hear my sons terrified screams. I couldn't get in the door easily as they were too small, but once I had shoved my way in calling to him all the time I'm coming, he was beyond consoling. I got him out and it took me and my sister about 20 minutes to get him out that state. As a mother it was extremely difficult and painful to see. 

    He's started to settle at my parents now and the easter bunny yesterday helped but I know when we move again to our own place it's going to upset him again. I will try that safe place and I know lots of preparation will help. What else can I do to help him deal with the changes? I looked at social stories but the only site I could find cost £50 for an annual membership. Thanks again for your help.

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