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Jemima86

we haven't had a good we. Monday my 6yo son was diagnosed as being on the spectrum and even though it was expected, I'm a health visit and we'd had lots of input from Educational psychologist and school, the news still came with a bang. Also this week me and my partner of 3 years have split up and we are temporarily with my parents until we find somewhere to live. I knew this would be tough on my little boy who already struggles with change but for two days he has been inconsolabel, meltdowns and disobedienc. He's extremely sensitive and it's heartbreaking for me to see him like this. I'm trying to be understanding and give lots of cuddles, letting him talk about his feelings etc but can anyone give me any advice on how to help him?? Im still trying to get the diagnosis under my belt too.

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  • I am really new to this too - my daughter is 5 - so my thoughts are just on th basis of what works for us...

    L hates change but sometimes it inevitable. I am her security so I keep her close all the time. She sleeps with me at night, we play the "holding hand game" in the morning (where everything you do holding hands) and we play her games her way - there is a book called "love bombing" which is very helpful.

    It's, for us, about making her feel secure and safe and then the behaviour improves from there as she is no longer needing to exert control.

    The other thing, particularly in a new space, is to make a den (from sheets and stuff) or a tent in the corner of a room. A space of their own creation again about control. And the same with food.

    All children need to sleep, eat and play well to feel better it's just an extra challenge for us to gt those needs met.

    Good luck (as I said this is just what works for us) - I hope you get a chance to process your emotions soon too.

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  • I am really new to this too - my daughter is 5 - so my thoughts are just on th basis of what works for us...

    L hates change but sometimes it inevitable. I am her security so I keep her close all the time. She sleeps with me at night, we play the "holding hand game" in the morning (where everything you do holding hands) and we play her games her way - there is a book called "love bombing" which is very helpful.

    It's, for us, about making her feel secure and safe and then the behaviour improves from there as she is no longer needing to exert control.

    The other thing, particularly in a new space, is to make a den (from sheets and stuff) or a tent in the corner of a room. A space of their own creation again about control. And the same with food.

    All children need to sleep, eat and play well to feel better it's just an extra challenge for us to gt those needs met.

    Good luck (as I said this is just what works for us) - I hope you get a chance to process your emotions soon too.

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