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Partner resentment

Ozzie417

Hi I wonder if anyone can help. With increased appointments and my son needing constant supervision I have had to reduce my hours in work significantly. My husband has always been supportive in the past, we have been married nearly 20 years, but now seems to not help around the house "because I do less hours" spending lots of money of golf etc "because he earns it" making digs about me not doing as much as him?!?! Has anyone else had anything like this. Im hoping it will settle because diagnosis is very recent and my new work hours still settling. 

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  • dont assume anything my relationship broke up last year after nearly 25 years.

    my ex got more moody and aggressive so i started to stay away and he started responding by saying kids were happier wiht me out of the way, so in effect i felt pushed out.

    i finally left having told him it wasnt too late to get help and change and he told me he wanted to leave 5 years ago (so i onbviously did the dirty work for him).  I got kids in college, uni etc and settled down on my own with a broken heart and parenting 1 child on the spectrum who i have thought his resentment and lack of support for years as he said i like to "label" out kids.  and the eldest who i also suspect but didnt get help because of his lack of support and a middle child.

    so get counselling or get him pinned down.  dont take any sh..t and if he cant support you, you dont need another child to look after you have enough on your plate.

    broken hearts are painful but you plod on - you have to.

    dont let someone treat you like that you will only suffer psychologically yourself.

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  • dont assume anything my relationship broke up last year after nearly 25 years.

    my ex got more moody and aggressive so i started to stay away and he started responding by saying kids were happier wiht me out of the way, so in effect i felt pushed out.

    i finally left having told him it wasnt too late to get help and change and he told me he wanted to leave 5 years ago (so i onbviously did the dirty work for him).  I got kids in college, uni etc and settled down on my own with a broken heart and parenting 1 child on the spectrum who i have thought his resentment and lack of support for years as he said i like to "label" out kids.  and the eldest who i also suspect but didnt get help because of his lack of support and a middle child.

    so get counselling or get him pinned down.  dont take any sh..t and if he cant support you, you dont need another child to look after you have enough on your plate.

    broken hearts are painful but you plod on - you have to.

    dont let someone treat you like that you will only suffer psychologically yourself.

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