Adult son and toileting...

Hi, I am not sure if I have posted this in the right place as I am new to the forum.

My son was diagnosed with High Functioning Autisim when he was 4, he had 3 years of speech thearpy and his early school years were uneventful and he had support.

He seems to have heightened senses of smell and touch and would not play in the sand or make 'mud pies'. He eats spare ribs and chicken on the bone with a knife and fork. These things do not constitute major issues but there is one thing that does and so far I haven't had any contact with someone who has this issue.

He is 19 now and has started an apprentaship which he has had to leave home to do, this in itself is a huge acheivement and we are very proud if not a little worried parents.

He has always had problems with doing a poo, he used to retch in the bathroom when he did go and would get distressed when wiping himself. I was still cleaning him right up to the age of 8/9. I put wet wipes in the bathroom to help, I'm ashamed to say I shouted at him quite a few times and it caused tension in my marriage. His underwear is permantly soiled, he leaves the loo in a state and now he has moved out and sharing bathroom facilities I am so worried about how he is managing this.

Has anyone had this problem or can anyone give advice please?

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  • I have just had a chance to read up on the replies. I read the first reply soon after it was posted and yes you are spot on Clovis, I was upset and advice was not helpful. I then read the next one and burst into tears, I have so much guilt anyway but also so much love and pride for my beautiful son. 

    I have explored other avenues when he was living at home and we had an ok situation but now he has moved out of home the problem comes back. 

    I'm sorry, I don't know how to feel about NAS now, I do relise it is not NAS opinion but another person's view but wow how rude and insensitive and yes why on earth was that allowed to be posted.

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  • I have just had a chance to read up on the replies. I read the first reply soon after it was posted and yes you are spot on Clovis, I was upset and advice was not helpful. I then read the next one and burst into tears, I have so much guilt anyway but also so much love and pride for my beautiful son. 

    I have explored other avenues when he was living at home and we had an ok situation but now he has moved out of home the problem comes back. 

    I'm sorry, I don't know how to feel about NAS now, I do relise it is not NAS opinion but another person's view but wow how rude and insensitive and yes why on earth was that allowed to be posted.

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