Teenage boy (17) with 'mild' Aspergers

Well I really feel for you and understand totally how you feel.  Although my son is still at college he never goes out anywhere with friends.  Since reading and finding out about Aspergers only in the last 3 months I have been much more relaxed with my son and to be honest we have a much better relationship.  It has always been ok really but he could drive you up the wall.  Now I feel so sad that he used to annoy me but he was struggling in his own way and I didn't know that.  I just want to help him be the best person he can be. 

There are no easy answers here are there.  Like your son my family have always seen my son as slightly odd with his own way quirky ways when all the time there was something wrong.  I feel desperate I didn't have him looked at earlier.  I just always thought he was his own person and at least I knew he would never do anything he didn't think was right.  He is never frightened to say no if he doesn't want to do something and I always thought that was a good thing.

My son doesn't see emotions at all. I got a little advice from the lady who diagnosed him saying to let him know of his emotions.  I have to do this every time, for example sometimes he seems so rude if he doesn't want to talk to me.  I have to tell him he is being rude and tell him how not to be and what he should say or do.  She says it could take a couple of years but eventually he will get it. She said sometimes it will click very quickly but sometimes could take up to five years.  When he gets to 25-30 ish he will settle in to his way of dealing with himself so now is the time to help.  I don't know if you have that problem.

Well I really feel for you and understand totally how you feel.  Although my son is still at college he never goes out anywhere with friends.  Since reading and finding out about Aspergers only in the last 3 months I have been much more relaxed with my son and to be honest we have a much better relationship.  It has always been ok really but he could drive you up the wall.  Now I feel so sad that he used to annoy me but he was struggling in his own way and I didn't know that.  I just want to help him be the best person he can be. 

There are no easy answers here are there.  Like your son my family have always seen my son as slightly odd with his own way quirky ways when all the time there was something wrong.  I feel desperate I didn't have him looked at earlier.  I just always thought he was his own person and at least I knew he would never do anything he didn't think was right.  He is never frightened to say no if he doesn't want to do something and I always thought that was a good thing.

My son doesn't see emotions at all. I got a little advice from the lady who diagnosed him saying to let him know of his emotions.  I have to do this every time, for example sometimes he seems so rude if he doesn't want to talk to me.  I have to tell him he is being rude and tell him how not to be and what he should say or do.  She says it could take a couple of years but eventually he will get it. She said sometimes it will click very quickly but sometimes could take up to five years.  When he gets to 25-30 ish he will settle in to his way of dealing with himself so now is the time to help.  I don't know if you have that problem.