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Girls Clothes

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This is quite personal, but it's been on my mind for ages now so I really want to try and get it off my chest.

I'm 19yrs old and since about primary school I've always loved girl's clothes, the way they feel and look and also girl's things like dolls and toys. This includes wearing girl clothes, like my mums underwear, tops, dresses etc. I know sometimes this can be thought of as gay, but I'm not, I love women and would one day love to get married. But sometimes this does bother me. It's been going on for years now and I've tried to tell my Dad or my Mum but I always back down. My Aspergers involves compulsive worrying and that's also something along with being very quiet which I've had my entire life. I have real trouble talking about things with my parent's, which is strange because they're really understanding and kind.

I've looked this up online and a lot of other people are like it. I just really want to know if anyone else here has had similar or the same experiences as me?

I have sometimes wished that I was a girl, I think I would be a lot happier, but again I've never properly spoken to my parent's about it. I know wearing my mum's clothing is wrong, I shouldn't do it behind her back but she's the only female in our house and as I don't have a job because of my mental health I couldn't buy girl clothes even if I wanted to. Despite this I spend a lot of time on Amazon looking at girl clothes wishing that I could buy some. I also look at girl wigs and imagine how different I'd look if I had one and was wearing girl clothes.
When I wear girl clothes, it doesn't feel strange, it feels kind of right but what I don't like is not being truthful with Mum and Dad. They're such loving people, but this is such a personal thing I just don't know who to talk to about it... :/

Does anyone here feel like this? If you do then please post a reply, it'd really help to see how you coped with this or something similar.

Hugs.

  • The world has room for all sorts of ideas and personalities.  And if it does no one else any harm what business is it of other people.

    People in power have always wanted a way of controlling others.  There have been laws in the past to allow what we would now call sexism, racism, agism, disability discrimination.  And I like to think society has matured a little since those days.

    If you get pleasure from wearing women's clothes, men's clothes or no clothes at all (with the proviso that this option should be in circumstances where it won't cause offence), that is up to you.  And no one else's concern.

  • NAS22687 said:

    Kinda went through the same thing myself.  I tried to shunt it to the back of my mind in my mid teens and spent the next 30 years being rather miserable until I eventually decided to be me and just get on with it.  Which in my case meant fully transitioning, hormones, surgery, the usual stuff.  I'm a lot happier now, my only regret is not doing it years ago.

    That may or may not be the path for you.  But wherever it takes you, it's important to be who you need to be.

    Worrying about other people was also a thing, though as it transpired, nobody really cared all that much.  Some were a bit interested but pretty much everyone was "so you're female now?  's cool, bro- I mean sis."

    Good luck with whatever you decide to do.  I'm often around if you need to chat, even if my recent correspondence here has been slightly erratic.

    I'm glad that you made the change and are happier because of it :) I think that's really nice. It's a shame you didn't make the change earlier, but at least you're who you want to be now :)

    I'm not sure what I'm going to do yet, I'll have to try and work up the courage to talk to my parent's at some point. Until then I guess I'll just try and think things over.
    Thanks for the offer, that's very kind. I'll talk again soon if I need too :)

  • Hi,

    Thanks for your reply :) I wish I could just bite the bullet and be who I am but the problem is I don't know who I am. Sometimes I wish I was a girl, other times I wish I could work or had children...

    I've been confused for a long time, pretty much since I was diagnosed with Aspergers and I really don't know who I am, or what the future will hold for me. I'm a big fan of Elvis Presley and enjoy singing, I often want to be a singer but I'm not really sure if I have a good enough voice for that.
    Really I need to speak to my Dad about this, but I'm quite a private person and find it easier to talk to people on here than to my parent's.

  • I recently answered a thread on here from a transgender person in their mid twenties I think. Stick around and you may be able to have good chat with others that share the same need. I think you are who you are. I never cared what others thought of me. Honestly, it has only been in the last 10 years I have worked on being more acceptable for society, like saying goodmorning or smiling at people. Anyhow, I urge you to be who you feel you are. Surround yourself with accepting people. Life is too short and we only get this one time to live it (not meant to offend any religious views). A lady once told me that this isn't a dress rehearsal, this is the real thing.