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Happydora

hello, I am waiting for help and diagnosis and so pleased I found this group.  I wanted to say something about hobbies and interests... I have always been told the things I have done over the years and even now is obsessive.  To me I don't see obsessive,I see a real interest in what I do or was doing at the time.

i can remember being a child and loving horses, I had to have everything that had horses on it! Bedding, clothing, books....all of it.  Out in shops with my parents as a child I could not leave something horse related on a shelf in a shop... It had to come with me.  Then one day my parents took me to a riding stables, I spent all my time in there! Before school, after school weekends...and lived in my riding clothes, would not take them off.  I was told I smelled like a horse.. Did not bother me I liked it.  When I moved some years later I was distraught I can't hold not go to the stables anymore, it upset me for ages. Then one day I just did not want to be around anything to do with horses, my mum had to empty my room of everything horsy as I refused to look at it all.

that was as a child...then growing up I got fixated in books, Stephen King books.  I needed them, all of them, I liked the look, feel and smell of them...they had to be new, no second hand ones.  I did not read them, I have never read a book in my life, I struggle with that with having dyslexia, dyspraxia and dyscalculia.  I just cannot get into a book, its just words and I cannot make the conection with the story. I cannot picture things in my head either so reading books just does not work for me... I later found out that I am a kinaesthetic learner so makes perfect sense! I think collecting books was my way of looking normal and trying to fit in as I knew people that read and collected books. Silly I know but I want so much to fit in and be accepted.

there have been lots of other things I get fixated on, when this happens I cannot stop thinking about it and need to interact with it, the books, I used to just feel and look at th covers...moving them on the shelf.  

Has anyone else been like this? I guess I just want to feel accepted here too...

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  • its comforting to know its not just me that collects and feels the need to do what I do... Horses, I actually got bit quite badly on my side as a teenager and I was mortified as I thought the horses did not like me.  It took my mum ages to get me even to walk back in the stables... I did though.  But would not ride again, just liked being in the stables with a brush! 

    No my knee was from an earlier childhood accident, (ha ha dyspraxia tue here as I am so accident prone!)where I fell over on glass and in lodged in my knee.  The glass was not taken out for years and I was in horrendous pain.. Caused lots of problems.  The later in life it turned into osteoarthritis to the point I cannot weight bare on it or walk, it's in a terrible state all the specialists I have seen say it needs replacing as its bone grinding on bone and small bits of bone are floating about now. I take each day as it comes then decide what to do depending on pain.

    when I was diagnosed with dyslexia dysppraxia ano dyscalculia they told me I am a kinaesthectic learner, it basically means for me I learn better by being shown what to do, hands on approach and with pictures and colours rather than words spoken or written.  I don't like reading and avoid it all the time.  I don't like telephones either, I have that face blindness where I don't understand face expressions or faces and because I cannot see someone on the other end of the phone I cannot connect with them...almost like it's not real...so don't use them.  I have a mobile but only talk to my family on it, they are used to me shouting down it now! Yes the shouting is a thing I do when frustrated.

    i wonder sometimes why I was never picked up by Drs, I clearly have problems and struggle with daily life.  My schooling was very different as I schooled in Germany, my dad was in the forces. It was very different and I think maybe that's why I was never picked up? Forces Drs are more of a take this tablet and get on with things! oh yes when I got my dyslexia and other d diagnosis they said then I should get further tests done on autism but with moving about so often with the forces it was forgotten about.  It would explain a lotto me and I guess make me feel like I fit in more? And who knows I may of even had help over the years? 

    Hmmmm ok stopping now as I feel I may be ending up going around and round.

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  • its comforting to know its not just me that collects and feels the need to do what I do... Horses, I actually got bit quite badly on my side as a teenager and I was mortified as I thought the horses did not like me.  It took my mum ages to get me even to walk back in the stables... I did though.  But would not ride again, just liked being in the stables with a brush! 

    No my knee was from an earlier childhood accident, (ha ha dyspraxia tue here as I am so accident prone!)where I fell over on glass and in lodged in my knee.  The glass was not taken out for years and I was in horrendous pain.. Caused lots of problems.  The later in life it turned into osteoarthritis to the point I cannot weight bare on it or walk, it's in a terrible state all the specialists I have seen say it needs replacing as its bone grinding on bone and small bits of bone are floating about now. I take each day as it comes then decide what to do depending on pain.

    when I was diagnosed with dyslexia dysppraxia ano dyscalculia they told me I am a kinaesthectic learner, it basically means for me I learn better by being shown what to do, hands on approach and with pictures and colours rather than words spoken or written.  I don't like reading and avoid it all the time.  I don't like telephones either, I have that face blindness where I don't understand face expressions or faces and because I cannot see someone on the other end of the phone I cannot connect with them...almost like it's not real...so don't use them.  I have a mobile but only talk to my family on it, they are used to me shouting down it now! Yes the shouting is a thing I do when frustrated.

    i wonder sometimes why I was never picked up by Drs, I clearly have problems and struggle with daily life.  My schooling was very different as I schooled in Germany, my dad was in the forces. It was very different and I think maybe that's why I was never picked up? Forces Drs are more of a take this tablet and get on with things! oh yes when I got my dyslexia and other d diagnosis they said then I should get further tests done on autism but with moving about so often with the forces it was forgotten about.  It would explain a lotto me and I guess make me feel like I fit in more? And who knows I may of even had help over the years? 

    Hmmmm ok stopping now as I feel I may be ending up going around and round.

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