My husband and I have been married for 6 years and together for 9. We had our son in 2012. Jamie was diagnosed with autism in November 2014. Life was pretty rough for a good while. Jamie is now 4 and in school. He spends his mornings in mainstream and afternoons in the autism base. We work with him every day and he progressing well. He has good days and bad. We adore him and he is our absolute world but it's tough. I was pregnant last year but had a miscarriage, which was quite traumatic. We are now trying to decide if we should try for another baby or to just stay as we are. Autism isn't easy and life can be stressful but we also have lovely days with him.
My husband and I have been married for 6 years and together for 9. We had our son in 2012. Jamie was diagnosed with autism in November 2014. Life was pretty rough for a good while. Jamie is now 4 and in school. He spends his mornings in mainstream and afternoons in the autism base. We work with him every day and he is progressing well. He has good days and bad. We adore him and he is our absolute world but it's tough. I was pregnant last year but had a miscarriage, which was quite traumatic. We are now trying to decide if we should try for another baby or to just stay as we are. I'm torn every day. Autism isn't easy and life can be stressful but we also have lots of lovely days with him.
I am 37 this month so time's not really on my side, I don't want to think about it for too long but I feel completely terrified and want to make the right decision. Every day I feel so scared and at a loss of what to do
Thr worry we have for Jamie's future is overwhelming. I worry about him being a vulnerable adult in the future and what would happen if something happened to Andy and I. Even close family don't know him like we do. I used to think another child would be someone for Jamie to grow up with and someone to look out for him but then I worry what if that child had autism too?! We love Jamie but I think the stress and worry of two children's futures due to a disability would be so overwhelming.
I know my hubby deep down wants another child but he's scared too. I feel completely depressed about it every day as I literally dont know what to do.
My circle of friends all had children around the same time Jamie was born and they all have another child now , some another two! But none of their children have a disability. Jamie is a beautiful boy but it can be challenging at times.
Any advice from anyone would help so much. Is a second child a huge difference?! I feel torn every single day and it's really getting me down
