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Why is routine important to you?

pewpewmcdrew

I have aspergers myself and have my own reason for liking routine- it basically provides reassurance, helps things go a lot smoother for me and helps me stay motivated. If I don't have a set routine for doing something I end up not getting it done or giving it up, but if I have a routine for doing something I will be likely to stick to it.

Interested in hearing what others have to say.

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  • Thanks for posting, and this sounds awful but I am glad your mum is in hospital, with the posts you have said, she has obviously needed to be in a week ago.  You learn to know your own limits, and when my husband went in, it meant I knew I could not manage his needs, he useually needed a drip of somekind.

    I hope you are having some you time?

    Your mum would love you unconditionally, but it is great that you noticed what much hard work she put in, for me it is exhausting.  Just make sure you tell her, so she knows the effort was worth it, which it sounds like to me it was.  I think from your posts you are older than me, so it was a different time when you were young.  Autism diagnosis was still in its infancy, and is really only still now being understood.  you can never help who you are or what it was like.  You were in a tough place, your dad's issues may have caused you more distress than you are aware of for example your violence.  My daughter has become very violent, and I think it is fallout from losing her dad.  When your dad was drunk, you may have lashed out then?  It will b difficult to remember, but this could have been a major trigger.

    At the minute we don't have any behavioural therapists, everything has been so difficult and we only obtained the diagnosis in late August.  We will see what it brings us.

    Anyway, I hope your mum is as ok as she can be.

    Take care, CJ

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  • Thanks for posting, and this sounds awful but I am glad your mum is in hospital, with the posts you have said, she has obviously needed to be in a week ago.  You learn to know your own limits, and when my husband went in, it meant I knew I could not manage his needs, he useually needed a drip of somekind.

    I hope you are having some you time?

    Your mum would love you unconditionally, but it is great that you noticed what much hard work she put in, for me it is exhausting.  Just make sure you tell her, so she knows the effort was worth it, which it sounds like to me it was.  I think from your posts you are older than me, so it was a different time when you were young.  Autism diagnosis was still in its infancy, and is really only still now being understood.  you can never help who you are or what it was like.  You were in a tough place, your dad's issues may have caused you more distress than you are aware of for example your violence.  My daughter has become very violent, and I think it is fallout from losing her dad.  When your dad was drunk, you may have lashed out then?  It will b difficult to remember, but this could have been a major trigger.

    At the minute we don't have any behavioural therapists, everything has been so difficult and we only obtained the diagnosis in late August.  We will see what it brings us.

    Anyway, I hope your mum is as ok as she can be.

    Take care, CJ

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