Why is routine important to you?

Thanks for replying.  I can't tell you how she sits in terms or whether she is worse than anyone else or not.  To anyone looking, she seems like a normal eight year old.  But thats where it ends really!

For example, we still have pjs on, no shoes and on the trampolene in her own little world - it is really cold outside, but I have no chance of getting her in, or dressed!  this just looks to others that she is being a bit naughty, but when it happens every single day, especially when she is supposed to be going to school or to the shop, how do you make her?

She has no concept of time, so I can tell her over and over till I am blue in the face, ok it's 8 now, we need to have breakfast, half an hour later I am still waiting, because she is 'not ready!' ok, school is now open - we are still in PJ's and now sneaked outside (sorry ran!) to get on the trampolene! The bell has gone now!, still nothing, if she is not ready, it is just not happening!  the other day I needed milk, I had enough for about 2 cups of tea, and stupidly forgot to get some.  It took me a day and a half to get it. and that was diabolicle.  I just don't get how I can implement a routine, when I can even do things like school! and going to the shop!

On a seperate note, I am sorry you guys are having problems with your mums.  I can relate in a different way that my mother-inn-law passed away in 2014 (my daughter's idol!) and then my husband passed away in May 2016 after 5 years critically ill (3.5 with cancer). I cannot sugar coat anything, and wouldn't want to.  I think my daughters increased violence is fallout from her dad, as thinking about it, we had something similar around the same time frame of her nanny.  

All you can expect, is like anyone to face grief and hardship, but when they are really ill like my husband was, I was actually willing him to go.  He physically couldn't take anymore.  One of you likes stories? sorry can't remember who, I wrote a poem for my husband and to give to our children, following our last conversation about all the things he was going to do when he was finally free.  I can post it if you are intersted?  I am going to re-write it and draw images to see if I can publish it for children going through grief.  A brilliant book for grief if you are interested is 'Michael Rosens' Sad.  He wrote it after his son died at a young age, not intending it to be a book.  It is amazing, and makes you realise the feelings you have are shall we say - normal. 

Wishing you happiness in your futures, whatever they may bring you.

CJ

Thanks for replying.  I can't tell you how she sits in terms or whether she is worse than anyone else or not.  To anyone looking, she seems like a normal eight year old.  But thats where it ends really!

For example, we still have pjs on, no shoes and on the trampolene in her own little world - it is really cold outside, but I have no chance of getting her in, or dressed!  this just looks to others that she is being a bit naughty, but when it happens every single day, especially when she is supposed to be going to school or to the shop, how do you make her?

She has no concept of time, so I can tell her over and over till I am blue in the face, ok it's 8 now, we need to have breakfast, half an hour later I am still waiting, because she is 'not ready!' ok, school is now open - we are still in PJ's and now sneaked outside (sorry ran!) to get on the trampolene! The bell has gone now!, still nothing, if she is not ready, it is just not happening!  the other day I needed milk, I had enough for about 2 cups of tea, and stupidly forgot to get some.  It took me a day and a half to get it. and that was diabolicle.  I just don't get how I can implement a routine, when I can even do things like school! and going to the shop!

On a seperate note, I am sorry you guys are having problems with your mums.  I can relate in a different way that my mother-inn-law passed away in 2014 (my daughter's idol!) and then my husband passed away in May 2016 after 5 years critically ill (3.5 with cancer). I cannot sugar coat anything, and wouldn't want to.  I think my daughters increased violence is fallout from her dad, as thinking about it, we had something similar around the same time frame of her nanny.  

All you can expect, is like anyone to face grief and hardship, but when they are really ill like my husband was, I was actually willing him to go.  He physically couldn't take anymore.  One of you likes stories? sorry can't remember who, I wrote a poem for my husband and to give to our children, following our last conversation about all the things he was going to do when he was finally free.  I can post it if you are intersted?  I am going to re-write it and draw images to see if I can publish it for children going through grief.  A brilliant book for grief if you are interested is 'Michael Rosens' Sad.  He wrote it after his son died at a young age, not intending it to be a book.  It is amazing, and makes you realise the feelings you have are shall we say - normal. 

Wishing you happiness in your futures, whatever they may bring you.

CJ