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Dulleyes

Im not really sure what is wrong with me at the moment i just feel weird i cant really explain it im just all over the place things annoy me when they shouldnt that not out of the ordinary but it does seem to be more frequent im just at that point in my life where i dont what to wake up in the morning. my life is pretty boring i like gaming but just cant seem to enjoy them anymore im trying to find things to keep me busy but nothing seems to work.i used to be unable to leave the house and talk to people out of the house and i was basicaly mute until i was fifteen i never even talked to family that much .Its only in the last year i started talking to family alot to the point that i think i annoy them just by talking to much. Ive only be able to talk to strangers in this way in the last couple of days. with my anger problems i freak out get really angry if someone gets violent with me and i have worries that i might hurt someone one day so i always dislike putting myself out into world. i just cant stand the things that seem to be unavoidable as someone  with asd. im currently seeing a doctor for depression and that seem like it has taking ages to get nowhere but the fact i can talk is something the me of a year couldnt do so i just dont know. i dont even really Know what i expect of the putting up this message but i just felt like doing it. I have had thoughts of suicide but i dont want to end my life. it just feels like im waiting for some magic wand to be waved and things to get better. i just dont know what to do to make my life better. sorry for the depressing message but i just feel like maybe someone might have an answer.  

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  • 'Learned Helplessness' often stems from a desire of others to exercise some sort of control.

    I remember two or three years ago there was a programme on the telly about former celebrities who were put into a care home.  They were allowed very little independent thought or control over their lives.  They quickly degerated into wanting everything done for them.

    Yet when they were allowed some thinking and doing on their own initiative they immediately started to take more interest and suffered a lot less stress, and were more than capable of doing the things that the care home was doing for them.

    I think we have a lot of busybodies who must control, who can't let people do things for themselves for any reason.  And who tend to think that once a condition has been diagnosed or an age has been reached, then independence is far too dangerous.

    And this then engenders a feeling of helplessness.  And it is not their fault.

    Peoples needs and strengths should be assessed properly.  But we live in a society where one size fits all, or one treatment suits everyone, or one disability is the same for everyone.  And all for the sake of simplification and cost cutting.

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  • 'Learned Helplessness' often stems from a desire of others to exercise some sort of control.

    I remember two or three years ago there was a programme on the telly about former celebrities who were put into a care home.  They were allowed very little independent thought or control over their lives.  They quickly degerated into wanting everything done for them.

    Yet when they were allowed some thinking and doing on their own initiative they immediately started to take more interest and suffered a lot less stress, and were more than capable of doing the things that the care home was doing for them.

    I think we have a lot of busybodies who must control, who can't let people do things for themselves for any reason.  And who tend to think that once a condition has been diagnosed or an age has been reached, then independence is far too dangerous.

    And this then engenders a feeling of helplessness.  And it is not their fault.

    Peoples needs and strengths should be assessed properly.  But we live in a society where one size fits all, or one treatment suits everyone, or one disability is the same for everyone.  And all for the sake of simplification and cost cutting.

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