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19yr old mum of 1 and 2yr old needs advice

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Hi.  As you will see from my profile.  I'm Grandma and my 19 year old received a diagnosis this week that her two year old daughter has autism.  It wasn't a total shock as her sleep, social interaction and speech has been almost none existant and she has been hitting herself since she was one.

I'm so worried about my daughter and the daily issues she faces I don't really know where to start, so thought I'd start with the experts - you people, who have been there and done that.

She is concerned that her one year old has started copying behaviours although she is definately NOT autistic.  She has just begun to throw her food and hit herself and obviously copies her sisters' total tantrums.

Any advice would be so welcome.  I don't live near them and work full-time (though am thinking of going part-time or giving up to help them) and it breaks my heart to see my daughter so shattered and feeling such a failure.

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  • Please don't view this as a diaster.  I have three children on the spectrum and they are all wonderful in their own way.  I was shattered when I first found out that my child was autistic and spent many years thinking it was the end of the world....but it wasn't. don't buy into the thinking that autistic children are a tragedy.... they absolutely can learn to live int he world....it just takes skillful parenting.  Please advise your daughter that she must not allow her child to 'get away' with behaviours because she thinks she can't help it.  Your grandchild can learn this stuff...it just needs to be explicity taught rather than assumed.  its just a differnt way of thinking.....stay positive....it will be ok :-)

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  • Please don't view this as a diaster.  I have three children on the spectrum and they are all wonderful in their own way.  I was shattered when I first found out that my child was autistic and spent many years thinking it was the end of the world....but it wasn't. don't buy into the thinking that autistic children are a tragedy.... they absolutely can learn to live int he world....it just takes skillful parenting.  Please advise your daughter that she must not allow her child to 'get away' with behaviours because she thinks she can't help it.  Your grandchild can learn this stuff...it just needs to be explicity taught rather than assumed.  its just a differnt way of thinking.....stay positive....it will be ok :-)

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