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Day of Getting Nowhere

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Having a bit of a difficult time, on going situation with Neighbours come in to play again this morning. After been exhausted from a difficult week, have come to terms with the situation, but still finding it exhausting. Refused neighbor access, after repeatedly saying no, for over 10 minutes. Then a little later I get call from my landlord, saying I was very rude to the neighbour when they asked; I was not rude at all. Basically landlord wants an easy life, so nothing I could do. I have come to terms with the overall situation after discussing it on here before, it still consumes a lot of energy.

Anyway have been trying to get my home in a more tidy state, because it is an absolute mess, and worried it is going to cause problems with the landlord. I try and start to organise some stuff. I collected a load of empty boxes, because I had planned to sell stuff I had collected, because it got so overwhelming to deal with after I found some had got damaged from damp.

My mind just gets continually worried about things, I am stressed with some "new" (25 year old) speakers I bought from a dealer. Only got photos of them yesterday after asking this dealer over 2 months for them. As I had very narrowly missed 3 other pairs which had come up in last couple of years. I felt I had to buy and collect them, otherwise they would just get quickly snapped up.

They are very bulky and heavy, over 50kg each. The dealer was a bit hasty helping me load them in to the car, and I fear he has damaged them as he rested both on the boot lock. We were holding them both, but I couldn't control when he wanted to rest them. Probably have gone through the custom boxes I have for them too.

I asked if I could here them before hand, but said he didn't have the setup to do that. When I arrived, he had plenty of suitable equipment. I thought he would have tested them, but after I paid for them, he told me he didn't test them at all.

Now problem I have is finding someone to give me a hand to lift them out of the car carefully, and help me set them up and relocate my existing pair.

I bought them as they were the version I wanted, to replace a stop gap I purchased last year. I realise I have made a mistake, and these are actually the same version that I have. I don't know why I missed that

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    random said:

    On the neighbour issue, I discussed it with a social worker I met for first time last week. She has offered to help with my landlord and police, not sure there will be a way to solve it, but hopefully I can minimise it, and the affect it has on me.

    This might seem brutal, Random, but there are limited ways forward with this

    a) The landlord can solve his problem by giving you notice.

    b) You could solve the problem by allowing access with, for example, 24 hours notice.

    c) The nieghbours could solve the problem by not needing to use your garden for access.

    d) You could find somewhere else to live where you have more rights to control what happens in your garden.

    This is a civil matter, rather than a police matter, unless there is a breach of the peace.

    As long as you are a tenant in a place, where shared access is necessary for the neighbours to get stuff in and out of their place, you will keep going round this loop. Your landlord does want an easy life, you want an easy life and your neighbours want an easy life. None of you wants to have this dispute going on and something has to give. I'm afraid that I suspect the courts might see you as the unreasonable one for refusing, point blank, to allow access to your neighbours.

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    random said:

    On the neighbour issue, I discussed it with a social worker I met for first time last week. She has offered to help with my landlord and police, not sure there will be a way to solve it, but hopefully I can minimise it, and the affect it has on me.

    This might seem brutal, Random, but there are limited ways forward with this

    a) The landlord can solve his problem by giving you notice.

    b) You could solve the problem by allowing access with, for example, 24 hours notice.

    c) The nieghbours could solve the problem by not needing to use your garden for access.

    d) You could find somewhere else to live where you have more rights to control what happens in your garden.

    This is a civil matter, rather than a police matter, unless there is a breach of the peace.

    As long as you are a tenant in a place, where shared access is necessary for the neighbours to get stuff in and out of their place, you will keep going round this loop. Your landlord does want an easy life, you want an easy life and your neighbours want an easy life. None of you wants to have this dispute going on and something has to give. I'm afraid that I suspect the courts might see you as the unreasonable one for refusing, point blank, to allow access to your neighbours.

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