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Hello there, good afternoon. 

Just popping here to vent, I suppose, because I'm reeling from something my one and only friend said to me in conversation yesterday, and it's absolutely ruined my sleep.

On the topic of my being much too stubborn and unable to accept another person's perspective, she offered her opinion and said, directly, that she feels I use my "autism card" too frequently.

I'm in turmoil as to what to make of that statement. I don't think it's fair, but... Am I the best person to judge? I thought I made a conscious effort not to blame/refer everything on my diagnosis, but... Maybe it's failing?

In a further effort to clarify the comment, she assured me she was only looking to make sure that I was "using the autism as an excuse to act like a *** to people and make out like you're never wrong".

Which... I know even less what to do with...! My head is mashed!

So does anyone have any opinions? Not necessarily to vindicate either of us in that conversation, but perhaps just on how I process such remarks, and what I attempt to respond with!

Thank you, and I hope you're all well.

Dan 

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  • I think you've all been very helpful - thank you very much...

    I can certainly see your point, Aspergerix, that I am struggling to process it from an emotional perspective. That makes a lot of sense.

    And thank you for your words of diplomacy, Pixiefox. That sounds like an acceptable approach to the subject, and I absolutely do get too drawn into an "autism" discussion when I probably shouldn't.

    Clovis, your response is pretty much how I felt initially - that she was being completely ignorant to how diificult I can sometimes find it just to "function". I didn't feel I could just dump that sort of response on her, though, as she just wouldn't have got it. It had to be more nuanced for her silly little NT brain  So I came and asked the wise folks here!

    Thanks guys, you've made me feel a lot better about it xx 

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  • I think you've all been very helpful - thank you very much...

    I can certainly see your point, Aspergerix, that I am struggling to process it from an emotional perspective. That makes a lot of sense.

    And thank you for your words of diplomacy, Pixiefox. That sounds like an acceptable approach to the subject, and I absolutely do get too drawn into an "autism" discussion when I probably shouldn't.

    Clovis, your response is pretty much how I felt initially - that she was being completely ignorant to how diificult I can sometimes find it just to "function". I didn't feel I could just dump that sort of response on her, though, as she just wouldn't have got it. It had to be more nuanced for her silly little NT brain  So I came and asked the wise folks here!

    Thanks guys, you've made me feel a lot better about it xx 

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