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Hello there, good afternoon. 

Just popping here to vent, I suppose, because I'm reeling from something my one and only friend said to me in conversation yesterday, and it's absolutely ruined my sleep.

On the topic of my being much too stubborn and unable to accept another person's perspective, she offered her opinion and said, directly, that she feels I use my "autism card" too frequently.

I'm in turmoil as to what to make of that statement. I don't think it's fair, but... Am I the best person to judge? I thought I made a conscious effort not to blame/refer everything on my diagnosis, but... Maybe it's failing?

In a further effort to clarify the comment, she assured me she was only looking to make sure that I was "using the autism as an excuse to act like a *** to people and make out like you're never wrong".

Which... I know even less what to do with...! My head is mashed!

So does anyone have any opinions? Not necessarily to vindicate either of us in that conversation, but perhaps just on how I process such remarks, and what I attempt to respond with!

Thank you, and I hope you're all well.

Dan 

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  • That was the sort of response I feared - though absolutely thank you for your response at all.

    I suppose in some way it's encouraging to think that I can change, and learn a different strategy, but god knows I don't want to. In my opinion I already hold my tongue a lot, especially with this particular person! It upsets me to think I must try harder still!

    And couldn't an argument be made that this is a suitable example of where we, as a group, should be asking the world around us to understand? To learn, understand and adapt?

    That's how I feel, anyway. And I think how I intend to treat the rude person I consider a friend. To my mind, she needs to accept that a lot of the time, I'm simply not able to "let it go" - whereas it is theoretically easier for her to.

    Argh, my head!  

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  • That was the sort of response I feared - though absolutely thank you for your response at all.

    I suppose in some way it's encouraging to think that I can change, and learn a different strategy, but god knows I don't want to. In my opinion I already hold my tongue a lot, especially with this particular person! It upsets me to think I must try harder still!

    And couldn't an argument be made that this is a suitable example of where we, as a group, should be asking the world around us to understand? To learn, understand and adapt?

    That's how I feel, anyway. And I think how I intend to treat the rude person I consider a friend. To my mind, she needs to accept that a lot of the time, I'm simply not able to "let it go" - whereas it is theoretically easier for her to.

    Argh, my head!  

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