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Some Friend

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Hello there, good afternoon. 

Just popping here to vent, I suppose, because I'm reeling from something my one and only friend said to me in conversation yesterday, and it's absolutely ruined my sleep.

On the topic of my being much too stubborn and unable to accept another person's perspective, she offered her opinion and said, directly, that she feels I use my "autism card" too frequently.

I'm in turmoil as to what to make of that statement. I don't think it's fair, but... Am I the best person to judge? I thought I made a conscious effort not to blame/refer everything on my diagnosis, but... Maybe it's failing?

In a further effort to clarify the comment, she assured me she was only looking to make sure that I was "using the autism as an excuse to act like a *** to people and make out like you're never wrong".

Which... I know even less what to do with...! My head is mashed!

So does anyone have any opinions? Not necessarily to vindicate either of us in that conversation, but perhaps just on how I process such remarks, and what I attempt to respond with!

Thank you, and I hope you're all well.

Dan 

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  • Anonymous
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    Right. I think I understand you.

    I also have strong opinions sometimes and will have to bite my tongue as I also learned to understand others have a right to their opinions. I've had to learn that over the years though as behaving like a *** did not go down well at all. Even when 'I knew' I was right.

    Thing is I, and probably you, see things as black or white, it's either true or false, right or wrong etc and I know I can get quite heated but I've learned to let these things go...as really it's not worth the stress. Unless there's serious consequences to something it really does not matter what people believe. It took me a long time to get my head around that even though it seems obvious to a muggle.

    Paul

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous

    Right. I think I understand you.

    I also have strong opinions sometimes and will have to bite my tongue as I also learned to understand others have a right to their opinions. I've had to learn that over the years though as behaving like a *** did not go down well at all. Even when 'I knew' I was right.

    Thing is I, and probably you, see things as black or white, it's either true or false, right or wrong etc and I know I can get quite heated but I've learned to let these things go...as really it's not worth the stress. Unless there's serious consequences to something it really does not matter what people believe. It took me a long time to get my head around that even though it seems obvious to a muggle.

    Paul

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