My Teenage Aspie won't leave the house

My daughter has recently been diagnosed as high functioning autistic. Something we always knew despite being told otherwise.

She he started secondary school this year and everything has gotten much worse. Her anxiety has gone into overdrive. The school are useless and after many battles with the school we have had to withdrawn her completely.  They won't give her quite time, shout at her for little eye contact. It is all too much for her. We will be home schooling her from September. The biggest issue is getting her up and out the house. she doesn't want to wash(which I understand) but this is worse as a young female she has started her period and she won't use any sanitary products even though we have shown her, we have soiled knickers, bedding etc... she just doesn't care.

she used to like swimming, doing photography, reading but since secondary school she has completely withdrawn.... Doesn't want to do anything,just sleep. She won't go out and if we do Get her out she is so stressed just cries . I've tried explains were we are going but nothing helps.... Like her, now feel trapped in the house.

she won't join a club of any type. 

Has no interest in anything

i am hoping her stress will go away now she knows she doesn't have to go back to school 

Has any one got any ideas? 

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  • time is all she needs i think, sometimes you just have to give people time to deal with things in their own time, to advance and progress on their own time and their own mind. she maybe behind others but today everyones being forced ahead unnaturally beyond their time anyway without letting them just naturally develope in their own way in their own mind. alot of patience is required, any prodding or forceful getting them to advance beyond their own mind set or timeframe would likely just get them to add more delay in progress due to pushing back against that.

  • Hi Caelus! 

    Thank you so much for your advice on this matter. I can definitely see that I am pushing her to fit in with others. We expect them to act just like other kids, wanting them to socialise, go to school etc. I will try my best to let go and just let her be. Just like you said, she probably needs time to be by her self, and adjust to the changes that are happening in her body. Thank you again, 

    Kindly, Nathalie  

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  • Hi Caelus! 

    Thank you so much for your advice on this matter. I can definitely see that I am pushing her to fit in with others. We expect them to act just like other kids, wanting them to socialise, go to school etc. I will try my best to let go and just let her be. Just like you said, she probably needs time to be by her self, and adjust to the changes that are happening in her body. Thank you again, 

    Kindly, Nathalie  

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