Couple of questions

Hi everyone I haven't actually been diagnosed and I'm going to see my gp soon after reading about autism it sounds an awful lot like me.

Background on me: I'm 20 years old have a strong interest /hobby in computers currently unemployed and seeking a job. My sister was diagnosed with aspergers last year which makes me wonder if I have it too.

Anyways, do people with autism struggle to explain things well to others because it's something that has been pointed out to me in the past that I am not very good at.

When I meet new people it usually takes me a couple of times meeting them to become comfortable with talking to them is this something that is a common trait with autism?

I am usually described as shy and quiet but this seems to be a common trend amungst people with autism, I also often take jokes literally and sometimes they offend me or make me question if the person really feels like that towards me.

Another question is when there is a loss of a releationship between a friend or Significant other I find it difficult letting go of the relationships is this something associated with autism?

I often find myself trying to stick to areas that I am familiar with and this limits me when I am looking for a job I find it extremely difficult and nerve wrecking when going to interviews in a unfamiliar place with people I don't know or haven't met and I've read here that other people feel that way too.

The last year I had in college I often found myself being alone and although I prefer the company of others I find it difficult to build new relationships with people so I often didn't bother trying to make new friends.

Aplogies for waffling on, thanks for taking your time reading this and I hope this is in the right section.

David.

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Former Member over 9 years ago

For someone with dyslexia that is a very clear and correctly spelt summary! Perhaps you are in the habit of apologising more than you need?
A problem you might get with a diagnosis is that you will then know that your communication skills are not so good but what good will the diagnosis do? This is the quandary I'm in at the moment. The diagnosis confirms that one has a communication problem and that may not be easy to resolve.
A lot of this turns on how much of a problem your anxieties are. I think you will have to be clear about this if you go to a GP - a lot of people feel slight twinges of anxiety and that is normal - if the anxiety makes you break out in a sweat and it makes you want to get outside away from people then that needs help. If it stops you from getting to an interview then that is a real problem. It sounds as though you will benefit from some help but you have to persuade your GP of that.

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Former Member over 9 years ago

For someone with dyslexia that is a very clear and correctly spelt summary! Perhaps you are in the habit of apologising more than you need?
A problem you might get with a diagnosis is that you will then know that your communication skills are not so good but what good will the diagnosis do? This is the quandary I'm in at the moment. The diagnosis confirms that one has a communication problem and that may not be easy to resolve.
A lot of this turns on how much of a problem your anxieties are. I think you will have to be clear about this if you go to a GP - a lot of people feel slight twinges of anxiety and that is normal - if the anxiety makes you break out in a sweat and it makes you want to get outside away from people then that needs help. If it stops you from getting to an interview then that is a real problem. It sounds as though you will benefit from some help but you have to persuade your GP of that.

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