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Couple of questions

DavidLC

Hi everyone I haven't actually been diagnosed and I'm going to see my gp soon after reading about autism it sounds an awful lot like me. 

Background on me: I'm 20 years old have a strong interest /hobby in computers currently unemployed and seeking a job. My sister was diagnosed with aspergers last year which makes me wonder if I have it too.

Anyways, do people with autism struggle to explain things well to others because it's something that has been pointed out to me in the past that I am not very good at. 

When I meet new people it usually takes me a couple of times meeting them to become comfortable with talking to them is this something that is a common trait with autism? 

I am usually described as shy and quiet but this seems to be a common trend amungst people with autism, I also often take jokes literally and sometimes they offend me or make me question if the person really feels like that towards me.

Another question is when there is a loss of a releationship between a friend or Significant other I find it difficult letting go of the relationships is this something associated with autism?

I often find myself trying to stick to areas that I am familiar with and this limits me when I am looking for a job I find it extremely difficult and nerve wrecking when going to interviews in a unfamiliar place with people I don't know or haven't met and I've read here that other people feel that way too.

The last year I had in college I often found myself being alone and although I prefer the company of others I find it difficult to build new relationships with people so I often didn't bother trying to make new friends.

Aplogies for waffling on, thanks for taking your time reading this and I hope this is in the right section.

David.

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    I agree with the others' advice above with a couple of variations

    Breaking up a relationship is hard for anyone - not just autistic people. Inability to get into relationships in the first place is a more common problem for people on the spectrum.

    Asperger's is commonly genetic so the fact that your sister has been diagnosed makes it more likely that you may be affected - but note that this suggests a possibility rather than anything more certain. Can you see eccentric traits in your parents too?

    When you go to your GP you have to be clear about two separate things

    1) What traits you think you have. Difficulty explaining things fits in here as would an unhealthy interest in one thing e.g. collecting milk bottles. Being interested in computers does not qualify but being able to list every version of the Atari console might suggest an autistic tendency!

    2) What problems this gives you. So, do you have any mental health issues (e.g. anxiety, depression etc etc) or do you think that this gets you into arguments, and worse, at work or perhaps you think this is stopping you from getting a job?

    If you have some traits but are managing fine then they may not feel the need to intervene with any help - but it depends what you think you need help with.

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  • Former Member
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    I agree with the others' advice above with a couple of variations

    Breaking up a relationship is hard for anyone - not just autistic people. Inability to get into relationships in the first place is a more common problem for people on the spectrum.

    Asperger's is commonly genetic so the fact that your sister has been diagnosed makes it more likely that you may be affected - but note that this suggests a possibility rather than anything more certain. Can you see eccentric traits in your parents too?

    When you go to your GP you have to be clear about two separate things

    1) What traits you think you have. Difficulty explaining things fits in here as would an unhealthy interest in one thing e.g. collecting milk bottles. Being interested in computers does not qualify but being able to list every version of the Atari console might suggest an autistic tendency!

    2) What problems this gives you. So, do you have any mental health issues (e.g. anxiety, depression etc etc) or do you think that this gets you into arguments, and worse, at work or perhaps you think this is stopping you from getting a job?

    If you have some traits but are managing fine then they may not feel the need to intervene with any help - but it depends what you think you need help with.

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