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wizzboy

Hi,  I'm asking this question in behalf of my brother-in-law who lives in Scotland. He lives with his wife and 6 children, 3 of which havebeen diagnosed with autism. Their ages are 17 10 and 8. Of recent,  they aquired new neighbours who constantly complain about the noise. My brother-in-law and his wife do their best and can't keep them quiet 24-7. Their neighbour is always knocking on their door telling them about the noise, which they are aware of and recently he got quite aggresive calling the children "little b@$tards" ! A few days later my brother-in-law received an order for anti social behaviour in the post. He is fuming, but doesn't know what to do next, who to ask.... 

Can anybody please give me some advise on where he stands regarding this. The family have a tough time enough without the pressure's from this guy. 

Thank you in advance

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    wizzboy said:

    The situation is stressing the family to boiling point. 

    It is quite possible that the rude neighbour is also stressed to boiling point. It is possible he has issues with his behaviour - he could even be autistic himself!

    The way forward is to get an independent third party involved to mediate and pull both sides away from the brink of war.

    It did occur to me that the ASBO won't have come without some warning - letters must have been sent, a court hearing must have been held etc etc. It is quite conceivable that your brother-in-law & partner have chaotic lives where such correspondence gets ignored until it is too late. It is quite likely (given the number of autistic children) that one or both parents are also on the spectrum. Does that sound like their family life?

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  • Former Member
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    wizzboy said:

    The situation is stressing the family to boiling point. 

    It is quite possible that the rude neighbour is also stressed to boiling point. It is possible he has issues with his behaviour - he could even be autistic himself!

    The way forward is to get an independent third party involved to mediate and pull both sides away from the brink of war.

    It did occur to me that the ASBO won't have come without some warning - letters must have been sent, a court hearing must have been held etc etc. It is quite conceivable that your brother-in-law & partner have chaotic lives where such correspondence gets ignored until it is too late. It is quite likely (given the number of autistic children) that one or both parents are also on the spectrum. Does that sound like their family life?

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