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wizzboy

Hi,  I'm asking this question in behalf of my brother-in-law who lives in Scotland. He lives with his wife and 6 children, 3 of which havebeen diagnosed with autism. Their ages are 17 10 and 8. Of recent,  they aquired new neighbours who constantly complain about the noise. My brother-in-law and his wife do their best and can't keep them quiet 24-7. Their neighbour is always knocking on their door telling them about the noise, which they are aware of and recently he got quite aggresive calling the children "little b@$tards" ! A few days later my brother-in-law received an order for anti social behaviour in the post. He is fuming, but doesn't know what to do next, who to ask.... 

Can anybody please give me some advise on where he stands regarding this. The family have a tough time enough without the pressure's from this guy. 

Thank you in advance

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    The first thing that people need to do in this situation is to try and see things from both points of view. Some autistic people have their lives made miserable by noisy neighbours and this rude person may feel that he has had this family of bad neighbours imposed on him. There are several threads on this forum about exactly that situation.

    Using the language that he has used is offensive and liable to cause a breach of the peace. He could be cautioned or worse for being abusive like that.

    Some form of mediation is called for and it may be that the police could be called on to intervene and introduce both sides to counselling or abritration services that can improve the situation. They have to deal with this sort of thing all of the time and are likely to be helpful if they are aware that the children (and presumably the parents) have autism. If the Police are called to help rather calling the police to complain then they are likely to get help rather than getting into more trouble.

    In the longer term it may be preferable for them to find a house where they are some distance from neighbours.

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    The first thing that people need to do in this situation is to try and see things from both points of view. Some autistic people have their lives made miserable by noisy neighbours and this rude person may feel that he has had this family of bad neighbours imposed on him. There are several threads on this forum about exactly that situation.

    Using the language that he has used is offensive and liable to cause a breach of the peace. He could be cautioned or worse for being abusive like that.

    Some form of mediation is called for and it may be that the police could be called on to intervene and introduce both sides to counselling or abritration services that can improve the situation. They have to deal with this sort of thing all of the time and are likely to be helpful if they are aware that the children (and presumably the parents) have autism. If the Police are called to help rather calling the police to complain then they are likely to get help rather than getting into more trouble.

    In the longer term it may be preferable for them to find a house where they are some distance from neighbours.

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