Arguments

Ok so we think we need  advise on something and that's that we like to play music out loud using speakers etc and our parent tells me to use headphones but i can't do that sorry and then arguments start and we feel like the parent is basically taking the piss as playing music out loud is what i do for a living but we watched them videos and kind of understand the anger that the parent has towards us now but  we get really upset sad about the music bit because there's us listening to sugar by maroon5 and we have the parent getting upset in an angry way towards us lot and we argue back by simply saying just leave us alone please so can someone give us some advice on how to make the parent understand that we r just listening to beautifull music and just being lovely showing it all off to friends n family instead of having the parent there going crazy about all this ?? we have been playing music since 2010 and we like us have been trying that sugar song by maroon5 ever since it first came on and for god sakes we can work from home by fifth harmony.And having to move away because of the parent being over sensitive with sounds and lights is not acceptible so yes i am happy i watched them videos and understand that autism better. But  errm its  not fair on us  (music lovers) because we r not even 22 yet and the parent needs to understand our feelings and just get along and join us for dinner soon .arguments and arguments ent taking us anywhere because we can just play our music on our radio or phones w.e. But then its not fair on the parent because it might not be an illness but it is a condition that is going to be there forever and moving away from the house the parent rents is not helping us or the parent or the whole families sadly tho the parent was diagnosed just a couple of years ago so no one really knows how much that condition is affecting everyone else like us so thanks for the support,reading this and the comments.ando.x.

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  • Nah i was very shy untill i was about 12 and started going to parties and around friends houses so you are right there recombinantsocks yeah it was basically me and my sister my younger sister at home all the time or atleast most of the time when we were younger after school.mum did teach us how to say please and thank you took us out for dinner the fair cinemas etc. you know we were tought how to be polite but i did find it hard to make friends specially as we were always moving about,nowadays i do find it hard to get along with mum but i am good at making friends and having a social life  i do want to get along but mum is always just going on about rules do this do that sort yourself out get help etc but before i continue errmm well lets remember she kicking me out,i just made the best out of having to sleep here and there from 15years old till recently i am nearly 20btw but that's it for the parent in this story (mum) we need to be friends have a laugh have fun together enjoy life to the fullest but  it seems she just wants to argue all the time or keep me away and it ent right it needs sorting is like her only fun after work is to have some sort of go at me lol she needs to get out there more and see that i was just trying to come back in but not on me own thanks.

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  • Nah i was very shy untill i was about 12 and started going to parties and around friends houses so you are right there recombinantsocks yeah it was basically me and my sister my younger sister at home all the time or atleast most of the time when we were younger after school.mum did teach us how to say please and thank you took us out for dinner the fair cinemas etc. you know we were tought how to be polite but i did find it hard to make friends specially as we were always moving about,nowadays i do find it hard to get along with mum but i am good at making friends and having a social life  i do want to get along but mum is always just going on about rules do this do that sort yourself out get help etc but before i continue errmm well lets remember she kicking me out,i just made the best out of having to sleep here and there from 15years old till recently i am nearly 20btw but that's it for the parent in this story (mum) we need to be friends have a laugh have fun together enjoy life to the fullest but  it seems she just wants to argue all the time or keep me away and it ent right it needs sorting is like her only fun after work is to have some sort of go at me lol she needs to get out there more and see that i was just trying to come back in but not on me own thanks.

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