Arguments

Ok so we think we need  advise on something and that's that we like to play music out loud using speakers etc and our parent tells me to use headphones but i can't do that sorry and then arguments start and we feel like the parent is basically taking the piss as playing music out loud is what i do for a living but we watched them videos and kind of understand the anger that the parent has towards us now but  we get really upset sad about the music bit because there's us listening to sugar by maroon5 and we have the parent getting upset in an angry way towards us lot and we argue back by simply saying just leave us alone please so can someone give us some advice on how to make the parent understand that we r just listening to beautifull music and just being lovely showing it all off to friends n family instead of having the parent there going crazy about all this ?? we have been playing music since 2010 and we like us have been trying that sugar song by maroon5 ever since it first came on and for god sakes we can work from home by fifth harmony.And having to move away because of the parent being over sensitive with sounds and lights is not acceptible so yes i am happy i watched them videos and understand that autism better. But  errm its  not fair on us  (music lovers) because we r not even 22 yet and the parent needs to understand our feelings and just get along and join us for dinner soon .arguments and arguments ent taking us anywhere because we can just play our music on our radio or phones w.e. But then its not fair on the parent because it might not be an illness but it is a condition that is going to be there forever and moving away from the house the parent rents is not helping us or the parent or the whole families sadly tho the parent was diagnosed just a couple of years ago so no one really knows how much that condition is affecting everyone else like us so thanks for the support,reading this and the comments.ando.x.

Parents
  • I could do yeah we agreed for me to use headphones after 10pm but another problem that bothers me is that she the parent says that my room is not my room but just a room and i say to her that that's not the truth the truth is that that room is my room but she says is not because she pays for it but at the end of the day there is 3 bedrooms in the house and she hasn't got the right to use that autority to pretend that the room is not mine when it is i think that is an issue because she does intrude in my personal space like you said and does not respect that it is my room and is wrong for her to come in the way she does with that behaviour wich does actually scare the girl well woman that hangs around with me luckily though even though she kicled me out before christmas and took me to court because of a lie luckily the judge saw that and allowed me to be able to come back to this house and gave me a fine of £50 for court arrears but nothing came out of her the parent taking me to court appart from keeping us appart i am just happy to be able to be back here hopefully everything will get back to the way it was i just think the parent has to somehow back off abit because i feel she bullys me and is trying to controll my life that i made myself,she says she doesn't but i tell her that the way she talks to me  is controlling behaviour and somehow it is bullying but i don't think she understands that i don't think she can because her answer to this is that she can't make me  feel anything i feel that myself, my answer to that is well ofcourse you can make me us feel we  feel well felt hurt and offended as thanks to all this i've been away for the last 6 months,rejected and like there is not point because the way she comes across makes me intimidated and like i can't even watch netflix and chill. 

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  • I could do yeah we agreed for me to use headphones after 10pm but another problem that bothers me is that she the parent says that my room is not my room but just a room and i say to her that that's not the truth the truth is that that room is my room but she says is not because she pays for it but at the end of the day there is 3 bedrooms in the house and she hasn't got the right to use that autority to pretend that the room is not mine when it is i think that is an issue because she does intrude in my personal space like you said and does not respect that it is my room and is wrong for her to come in the way she does with that behaviour wich does actually scare the girl well woman that hangs around with me luckily though even though she kicled me out before christmas and took me to court because of a lie luckily the judge saw that and allowed me to be able to come back to this house and gave me a fine of £50 for court arrears but nothing came out of her the parent taking me to court appart from keeping us appart i am just happy to be able to be back here hopefully everything will get back to the way it was i just think the parent has to somehow back off abit because i feel she bullys me and is trying to controll my life that i made myself,she says she doesn't but i tell her that the way she talks to me  is controlling behaviour and somehow it is bullying but i don't think she understands that i don't think she can because her answer to this is that she can't make me  feel anything i feel that myself, my answer to that is well ofcourse you can make me us feel we  feel well felt hurt and offended as thanks to all this i've been away for the last 6 months,rejected and like there is not point because the way she comes across makes me intimidated and like i can't even watch netflix and chill. 

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