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struggling to understand and react to sons outbursts

yakdad

Hi all we are currently pealing the onion to get to the route of my sons behaviours, its been noted he is showing alot of autistic trates and coupled with his hearing issues porr little mite has not had a good start in life, he is now 7 and in main stream school but since the age of three been having outbursts of sheer anger and frustration and no matter whatmyself or wife tried to do it got worse, its been tough and even harder now hes at school we get all the pent up anger and frustration when hes home, he hates a change of routine and refuses point blank to go out at weekends unless he has been told well in advance all we get is major melt downs, just recently he has has started to throw a hissy fit and refuse to allow me to help him and shouts to not look at him whch is driving me to despair . has anyone else encountered this ? we have only now started down the road of gettinga  full diagnosis but feel helpless on what or how to react to help him, thankyou in advance for any help or advice 

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  • Hi thankyou for your replies and a few things do make sense, regards his anger and frustration he is not violent but pent up anger if tha makes sense , lewis will just stomp his feet shouting and hitting his own legs in a tantrum, 

    unfortunatly i work shifts which are not a good pattern over a 8 week period so i wondered if this may be part of his issues towards me as he may see me for a hour or two one day to the next or be home at end of school or not depend what week im on, a couple of work mates children have the same reactions aswell funny enough after chatting to them about it . with this in mind it is sooo hard to keep a routine, we understand the boundry of autism and change but life is all about change and we cannot control life, lewis does not grasp the concept for example when its t time that something may take time to cook but he will get very anxious with constant "when is it ready " , we also have another son of 10 who is going through his sats now and are worried we are not giving him enough one to one also with lewis comanding all the attention. At school he is focused to a degree but will easily loose it and needs constant prompting,only other time he is focused is when he is playing musical items especially the drums he will then happily stick to what hes doing a little longer. 

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  • Hi thankyou for your replies and a few things do make sense, regards his anger and frustration he is not violent but pent up anger if tha makes sense , lewis will just stomp his feet shouting and hitting his own legs in a tantrum, 

    unfortunatly i work shifts which are not a good pattern over a 8 week period so i wondered if this may be part of his issues towards me as he may see me for a hour or two one day to the next or be home at end of school or not depend what week im on, a couple of work mates children have the same reactions aswell funny enough after chatting to them about it . with this in mind it is sooo hard to keep a routine, we understand the boundry of autism and change but life is all about change and we cannot control life, lewis does not grasp the concept for example when its t time that something may take time to cook but he will get very anxious with constant "when is it ready " , we also have another son of 10 who is going through his sats now and are worried we are not giving him enough one to one also with lewis comanding all the attention. At school he is focused to a degree but will easily loose it and needs constant prompting,only other time he is focused is when he is playing musical items especially the drums he will then happily stick to what hes doing a little longer. 

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