struggling to understand and react to sons outbursts

Hi all we are currently pealing the onion to get to the route of my sons behaviours, its been noted he is showing alot of autistic trates and coupled with his hearing issues porr little mite has not had a good start in life, he is now 7 and in main stream school but since the age of three been having outbursts of sheer anger and frustration and no matter whatmyself or wife tried to do it got worse, its been tough and even harder now hes at school we get all the pent up anger and frustration when hes home, he hates a change of routine and refuses point blank to go out at weekends unless he has been told well in advance all we get is major melt downs, just recently he has has started to throw a hissy fit and refuse to allow me to help him and shouts to not look at him whch is driving me to despair . has anyone else encountered this ? we have only now started down the road of gettinga  full diagnosis but feel helpless on what or how to react to help him, thankyou in advance for any help or advice 

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    There are courses for parents to help them understand and deal with autistic children www.autism.org.uk/earlybird In your case the Earlybird Plus applies to your son's age.

    Autistic people can really struggle with being looked at - he may just find it baffling and confusing. We often avoid eye contact altogether.

    A punchbag may be good but his behaviour really shows that something is winding him up. It is important with autistic children to be absolutely calm, fair and consistent. He might find it intolerable if you say one thing and then change your mind. If you say no then make sure you can go through with it and don't say yes to something one day and then change your mind the next day. Try and agree with him what rules you should have in the house and be very quiet and calm about sticking to them.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    There are courses for parents to help them understand and deal with autistic children www.autism.org.uk/earlybird In your case the Earlybird Plus applies to your son's age.

    Autistic people can really struggle with being looked at - he may just find it baffling and confusing. We often avoid eye contact altogether.

    A punchbag may be good but his behaviour really shows that something is winding him up. It is important with autistic children to be absolutely calm, fair and consistent. He might find it intolerable if you say one thing and then change your mind. If you say no then make sure you can go through with it and don't say yes to something one day and then change your mind the next day. Try and agree with him what rules you should have in the house and be very quiet and calm about sticking to them.

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