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my son's growing interests

bootsy

Hi everyone,

Its been a while since I've been on this website - so much to do as I'm a student.  Funny - my 14yr old son is no longer a 'student' but me, (his mother is!)

I just wanted to say that when I took my son out of school, to be home educated. The teachers implied that he would come to nothing - we were making a big mistake and that I should insist on him going to school.  I told them,'It just isn't happeneing'.  This happened before his ASD diagnosis.

Since then I have struggled with myself, thinking that I should be doing more but I need not have worried.  Since he has left school, his creative personality has been allowed to flourish.  At school, he did not like reading (he has ADHD too) or appearing 'uncool' in front of his friends by being interested in subjects.

He is writing a science fiction book with the most amazing ability for description;  for instance in describing the main character he wrote, ''he looked like an unfinished Picasso, left out in the rain'.  When I read this, I felt overwhelmed and touched by his poetic use of words.  He doesn't understand my excitement for his talent and underplays it. So, with his permission I asked someone who does not know him to read his work and his feedback finally led to my son feeling a little bit proud of himself.  This in itself was a remarkable step forward - a step up in his own self worth!

Yesterday, he whispered to me that he is reading a Shakespeare play and that he loves it and finds it inspiring.

I am beside myself that he has found some joy in his life.  At last, I do not give myself such a hard time over not knowing how to help him as it seems that given the time and space and letting things just be, he is not only educating himself but finding his own way in this world.

I am, howver, left with one big worry, his isolation. On the one hand, his isolation has played a part in him finding his creativity, on the other hand, I feel that he is missing out on some social interaction but does he?

Thanks for listening!

Bootsy

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  • 'Love comforteth like sunshine after rain' - Venus and Adonis. One of Willy's early ones.

    I learned far more relevant and interesting things after I left school. I found that teachers didn't like to be questioned, told they are wrong or discuss anything that's not up on the black board.

    History at school was a waste of time I thought. Each year we covered Hendry the 8th and his penchant for spousal abuse. Had they have said 'Hendry the 8th was a glutenous misogynistic git' then that would have saved 5 years.

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  • 'Love comforteth like sunshine after rain' - Venus and Adonis. One of Willy's early ones.

    I learned far more relevant and interesting things after I left school. I found that teachers didn't like to be questioned, told they are wrong or discuss anything that's not up on the black board.

    History at school was a waste of time I thought. Each year we covered Hendry the 8th and his penchant for spousal abuse. Had they have said 'Hendry the 8th was a glutenous misogynistic git' then that would have saved 5 years.

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