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I completely agree, my soon to be 10 year old with HF ASC is the same.. Just can not find the words, the frustration builds and I can literally see him struggling!

He also finds it extremely embarrassing, (his words), to repeat something emotional to him and will also tell me or his brother to tell it for him after telling it once..

I'm starting to believe he has problems with his working memory possibly, -insofar as when he is emotional or upset he can not communicate and is wrapped up in the overwhelming emotion. So we are working with other ways to help him express himself- writing it down, drawing a picture, even just writing key words of how he feels seems to help sometimes...

But I should add that my son has problems recalling events anyway as well as problems with time- insofar as when things happened... ask him how his school day went when picking him up from school and he'll say " I can't remeber" .. So we have a communication book in place (has been since year 1) and it can be a "godsend" for knowing how his day went, as we are lucky and both his TA's (one to one), Teacher and other staff memebers are fantastic about writing in it and informing us. ( I should also add that I work in a local mainstream infants as a one to one specifically with children on the Spectrum and my son's school knows this and has really "stepped up to the plate" as we americans say.)

I agree and also think you should meet with your child's SENCo to discuss what's been happening and how your child has been at school and ask her about a "circle of friends"- the basic idea is that peers from the child's class or year volunteer to be a peer support group. but in the meantime, using art, writing or whatever means you can think of- (puppets and dolls even to act out) to help your child express what's been going on..it can honestly relieve the pressure, stress and prove to be distracting enough so that they can express themselves.

I hope any of that helped and good luck!

I completely agree, my soon to be 10 year old with HF ASC is the same.. Just can not find the words, the frustration builds and I can literally see him struggling!

He also finds it extremely embarrassing, (his words), to repeat something emotional to him and will also tell me or his brother to tell it for him after telling it once..

I'm starting to believe he has problems with his working memory possibly, -insofar as when he is emotional or upset he can not communicate and is wrapped up in the overwhelming emotion. So we are working with other ways to help him express himself- writing it down, drawing a picture, even just writing key words of how he feels seems to help sometimes...

But I should add that my son has problems recalling events anyway as well as problems with time- insofar as when things happened... ask him how his school day went when picking him up from school and he'll say " I can't remeber" .. So we have a communication book in place (has been since year 1) and it can be a "godsend" for knowing how his day went, as we are lucky and both his TA's (one to one), Teacher and other staff memebers are fantastic about writing in it and informing us. ( I should also add that I work in a local mainstream infants as a one to one specifically with children on the Spectrum and my son's school knows this and has really "stepped up to the plate" as we americans say.)

I agree and also think you should meet with your child's SENCo to discuss what's been happening and how your child has been at school and ask her about a "circle of friends"- the basic idea is that peers from the child's class or year volunteer to be a peer support group. but in the meantime, using art, writing or whatever means you can think of- (puppets and dolls even to act out) to help your child express what's been going on..it can honestly relieve the pressure, stress and prove to be distracting enough so that they can express themselves.

I hope any of that helped and good luck!