please stop moving all the posts

Hi all,

Just wanted to make sure that Saneasever get's the best support possible. There's another discussion in Education started a little after the reply here.

So here's the link to that discussion -

http://community.autism.org.uk/discussions/health-wellbeing/parents-carers/problem-school-cant-explain

If you have already replied here you might want to consider replying to that discussion with the same advice or support.

I'll close this discussion to avoid us splitting the support offered into two places and I'll let everyone know when I have an update on fixing the email.

Just double-checked, seems that the '...' has broken, it should be part of the link, or was when it was working. You should still have a full link at the bottom of the message but we'll get it sorted asap

Thanks for the continued patience, we'll keep getting there one step at a time.

Thanks for letting me know. That's certainly a broken link and the truncation looks to have affected it.

It should be a quick job to handle how the links are treated so hopefully should be fixed very quickly.

same here..

Yeah, I'm really sorry about that UK_Aspie we've just realised that will be a problem and I'll do everything I can to find a solution as quickly as possible.

I completely agree, my soon to be 10 year old with HF ASC is the same.. Just can not find the words, the frustration builds and I can literally see him struggling!

He also finds it extremely embarrassing, (his words), to repeat something emotional to him and will also tell me or his brother to tell it for him after telling it once..

I'm starting to believe he has problems with his working memory possibly, -insofar as when he is emotional or upset he can not communicate and is wrapped up in the overwhelming emotion. So we are working with other ways to help him express himself- writing it down, drawing a picture, even just writing key words of how he feels seems to help sometimes...

But I should add that my son has problems recalling events anyway as well as problems with time- insofar as when things happened... ask him how his school day went when picking him up from school and he'll say " I can't remeber" .. So we have a communication book in place (has been since year 1) and it can be a "godsend" for knowing how his day went, as we are lucky and both his TA's (one to one), Teacher and other staff memebers are fantastic about writing in it and informing us. ( I should also add that I work in a local mainstream infants as a one to one specifically with children on the Spectrum and my son's school knows this and has really "stepped up to the plate" as we americans say.)

I agree and also think you should meet with your child's SENCo to discuss what's been happening and how your child has been at school and ask her about a "circle of friends"- the basic idea is that peers from the child's class or year volunteer to be a peer support group. but in the meantime, using art, writing or whatever means you can think of- (puppets and dolls even to act out) to help your child express what's been going on..it can honestly relieve the pressure, stress and prove to be distracting enough so that they can express themselves.

I hope any of that helped and good luck!

shellspectrum said:

please stop moving all the posts its getting very confusing,I am really having problems with it.

if you want them in specific forums please make them then we know where and how we can post

thankyou

hi shellspectrum

I'm sorry that the discussions we've moved has caused you confusion. Moving forward with the Community we do think it's important that discussions sit in similar areas so we will continue to move discussions.

However, with the early discussions we've moved we did forget, and we're sorry for this, to add a link in their original location to show where a discussion was moved to. We'll make sure we remember to do this when we move any other discussions.

I hope that'll make it easier for you to keep track of the discussions you're interested in.

Hi Saneasever

My 10 year old Aspie son has excellent vocabulary but cannot verbalise things that are troubling him.  As with A, he really wants to tell us but gets really anxious and upset because for some reason he just cannot do it.  A further characteristic is that he can relay a story or experience that he wants us to know but can only tell it once.  If he wants it retold he says "you tell him Mum" (or Dad or whoever).  It's as if her is embarrassed saying it more than once. 

Sorry I'm no help but await further replies with interest

Hi I am shell I have autism I also have children with autism

could it be bullying,try asking her to write it down instead of having to say it that takes away a lot of the anxiety of having to relive what has happened then explaining in a way another can understandis also frustrating

i would suggest a meeting with the SENCO your daughter and any support that she has,i would also suggest school having a disibilty week where has differant disabilities are discussed in assembly.Also a bullying assembly would not go a miss but please mention that most of the bullying will be mentally rather than physical.

 Hi. Hoping somebody reading this might be able to help. My daughter (A. 9yrs old, Aspie) has a problem of some description at school. I say 'a problem of some description' because, try as I might, I can't seem to find a way of getting her to find the right words to explain exactly what it is without her getting so anxious that she starts to cry. All I've managed to glean is that it's something to do with a group of children at school, and the problems getting worse (her words). She hates school now (as a result) and will find every cuss word that isn't swearing to vent just how much she hates it, or she'll cry and get herself really worked up. She's never been one to act like this about school, and I don't know what to do to help her. She's only been diagnosed for 5 months, her peer group isn't aware of her diagnosis as yet (she's hoping to tell them at some stage after this half-term with the help of the ASD outreach team). How can I help her if she wants to explain but can't? (Incidentally,(A.) saw me writing this, hence the rabbit at the beginning. She also wants me to tell you that it's VERY IMPORTANT). I know that she really wants to tell me and get some help, but she just can't. What should I do???