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advice needed please xx

linziprophet

Hi everyone first time on a forum so a little nervous but could really do with some advice, my son who is 8 years old has just had a record meltdown that has lasted 2 hours he has calming lights in his room and has now settled. when he has these meltdowns he wont talk or listen to me or his dad he puts his fleece blanket around himself and just screams and shouts and hes destructive i have heard that weighted blankets are a good aid to use can anyone tell me if these are worth buying ? and if so where is the best place to buy them from, thanks x

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  • It always worth a try.

    I don't have meltdowns in that way but on Wednesday I was feeling angry over something. I was cleaning in a church and unsually kept my coat on. An afterthought I realised I could put my hood up. I wasn't at risk of being portrayed as a hoodie as the priest knows me well and knew what got to me anyway.  But yes it reduced my anger for me.

    Point to note - whilst we complain about hoodies and how teenagers use them, perhaps it their way of seeking comfort in themselves too.

    But yes it well worth the try and don't be too worried by that he won't speak to you after a meltdown. Please don't try to make him speak. Just be around as such so he knows you are there when he wants to speak. As for the screaming if the lights work then use what works. He needs to work through his emotions his way otherwise if they are forced in then be longer term emotional damage. Just allow him time and space so he knows what to do when the meltdowns happen. 

    just be around for him when he is ready and just make sure he is safe and have available what works for him

    Take care

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  • It always worth a try.

    I don't have meltdowns in that way but on Wednesday I was feeling angry over something. I was cleaning in a church and unsually kept my coat on. An afterthought I realised I could put my hood up. I wasn't at risk of being portrayed as a hoodie as the priest knows me well and knew what got to me anyway.  But yes it reduced my anger for me.

    Point to note - whilst we complain about hoodies and how teenagers use them, perhaps it their way of seeking comfort in themselves too.

    But yes it well worth the try and don't be too worried by that he won't speak to you after a meltdown. Please don't try to make him speak. Just be around as such so he knows you are there when he wants to speak. As for the screaming if the lights work then use what works. He needs to work through his emotions his way otherwise if they are forced in then be longer term emotional damage. Just allow him time and space so he knows what to do when the meltdowns happen. 

    just be around for him when he is ready and just make sure he is safe and have available what works for him

    Take care

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