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Negative Feedback Loop

Undiagnosed4321

What do you guys make of a Negative Feedback Loop?

Is this a common thing to get bogged down in Negative thinking, for one thing to happen which sends you down in a negative spiral, where you can't see the positives and just focus on the negatives and it makes you worse and worse?

Or is that another disorder?

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  • I think you're taking the right approach.  It can be difficult not to feel embarrassed by admitting to someone that my social comprehension isn't very good, but in the long run, I think it's much better to be pro-active as soon as you sense that communication is breaking down.

    It's a case of trying to find a way to ask for the reassurrance that I need, before the negative cycle has a chance to get started.  I'll just apologise for having a bit of a thick skull, and ask for the smallest point of clarification that will set my mind to rest.

    For example, I'm much more confortable now with pointing out if a conversation is going too quickly for me to follow.  At the end of the day, if I'm missing the context of a situation, it's not only me that suffers - the person on the other side of the converation is more likely to end up disappointed too.  So I let them know that I am slowing my responses on purpose, so that everyone benefits from a more productive discussion.

    If asked to justify myself, I'll put it down to an unspecified "medical condition", or the effects of medication.  Most people are a bit squeamish about discussing health problems, particularly those of a stranger, so I have only very rarely been challenged to be more specific.

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  • I think you're taking the right approach.  It can be difficult not to feel embarrassed by admitting to someone that my social comprehension isn't very good, but in the long run, I think it's much better to be pro-active as soon as you sense that communication is breaking down.

    It's a case of trying to find a way to ask for the reassurrance that I need, before the negative cycle has a chance to get started.  I'll just apologise for having a bit of a thick skull, and ask for the smallest point of clarification that will set my mind to rest.

    For example, I'm much more confortable now with pointing out if a conversation is going too quickly for me to follow.  At the end of the day, if I'm missing the context of a situation, it's not only me that suffers - the person on the other side of the converation is more likely to end up disappointed too.  So I let them know that I am slowing my responses on purpose, so that everyone benefits from a more productive discussion.

    If asked to justify myself, I'll put it down to an unspecified "medical condition", or the effects of medication.  Most people are a bit squeamish about discussing health problems, particularly those of a stranger, so I have only very rarely been challenged to be more specific.

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