AS people, please can you help me?

I am trying, with great difficulty, to understand something. I could really use your help with this, it's literaly taken me over (you know the one) and I need the thinking of others. Call it an intervention!

Before I begin, please can I ask you to look over the following article?;

nymag.com/.../

I have seen many posts from NT parents about 'treatment' for AS.

The question I have asked myself is, 'if I could go back and be changed into an NT by 'treatment', would I choose it?'

My firm answer is 'No'. I am the sum total of a life spent as an AS person. I can't change my past, so my best option is to use the learning that is 'the sum of who I am' to help others if I can, and especially for the next generation. If any of you think that I can be helpful and supportive, understanding and insightful, fine. If you think the opposite, also fine and I am sorry that I wasn't helpful. I do what everyone does - the best I can.

I'm an egalitarian by instinct. I will state my thoughts and opinions, but they are mine alone. When I read other people's posts, I assume the right to agree or disagree, and simply expect the same fairness back.

Thank you for listening this far, and now I've come to my taxing absorption.

I read this post under the title Stem cell treatment for autism: 'Has anyone undergone stem cell treatment for autism?'

I responded with '

This is my personal opinion. I don't argue my personal opinions, just for them.

How about 'tretament' for being NT? Their capacity for being the most illogical, spiteful, self-destructive creature on this planet leaves me staggered. I pity the poor creatures and their lack of insight, but what can you do? No-one is researching 'treatment' for them, because they collectively agree that their unsanity is 'normal'.

The inmates are running the asylum.

Now, I thought that I was humourously disparaging the idea of 'treating' people just because they are different. It is my belief that most people will be able to see that I have reiterated the concepts of the same thing as the poster, with our roles reversed. Here's your mirror, as it were.

I just discovered that I got moderated for this post . Apparently, I should watch my language. A particular word picked out is asylum because it is derrogatory towards past attitudes to mental health (?).

I am totaly confused. I don't know why 'mental health' is being brought into it. Given the various current uses of the word 'asylum' I don't know how it becomes offensive, even in context, 'the inmates are running the asylum' is a common concept and has been the root idea behind several award winning books, plays and films, yet it appears that some ignoramus doesn't like it. And apparently, I'm supposed to know this and understand it in their particular case. Que?

Please, any insights will do. Sooner or later one of you will say something that will help me get a grip on this. You know the one where the more you try, the more you're shaking your head, you're laughing bleakly, you don't know whether to be angry, offended, confused, puch drunk, weakened, disempowered, desperate to understand, shocked, fed up with mods public messages yet again, privacy invaded, and a whole bunch more, and because you can't choose one, you have them all at once instead. That's where I am right now.

Phew! Bit of a maze. Ariadne, the thread!

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recombinantsocks over 8 years ago

longman said:
You forget, R'socks, some of the Moderators are on the autistic spectrum.
On the contrary, I expect some/most/all? of the moderators are on the spectrum. This would lead to difficulties in applying the nuances of when to apply a rule and when to stand back. It would lead to difficulties in detecting and responding appropriately to emotions and in not being accomplished and diplomatic in dealing with angry and emotional members.
In either case, we shouldn't make ourselves angry because someone else fails to meet our expectations. We have high expectations and exacting standards and are unforgiving of ourselves and others when those standards aren't met. I was given a book on anger management a few years ago (pre-dx) because I had turned into Victor Meldrew. The one lesson from that book was that anger only hurts the person who is angry. Anger has very little benefit to anyone unless it serves to drive you to some (peacable!) action that resolves the problem.
One of the issues that we are raising is that perhaps there has not been sufficient autism training amongst the moderators. It is not their fault and, if nobody has raised this before, then we should not be surprised at this turn of events.
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recombinantsocks over 8 years ago

longman said:
You forget, R'socks, some of the Moderators are on the autistic spectrum.
On the contrary, I expect some/most/all? of the moderators are on the spectrum. This would lead to difficulties in applying the nuances of when to apply a rule and when to stand back. It would lead to difficulties in detecting and responding appropriately to emotions and in not being accomplished and diplomatic in dealing with angry and emotional members.
In either case, we shouldn't make ourselves angry because someone else fails to meet our expectations. We have high expectations and exacting standards and are unforgiving of ourselves and others when those standards aren't met. I was given a book on anger management a few years ago (pre-dx) because I had turned into Victor Meldrew. The one lesson from that book was that anger only hurts the person who is angry. Anger has very little benefit to anyone unless it serves to drive you to some (peacable!) action that resolves the problem.
One of the issues that we are raising is that perhaps there has not been sufficient autism training amongst the moderators. It is not their fault and, if nobody has raised this before, then we should not be surprised at this turn of events.
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