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MrsB16

Hi, 

I'm enquiring about my 4 and a half year old son. He has no diagnosis, although my sister Suspects he's on the mild end of the spectrum. 

I could go on for ages about him as he's a mystery to me, but what I'm wondering about is his need to always touch or bang someone or something. He constantly touches/presses his siblings, especially the baby and it can be quite hard. He also always has to make noise, singing, shouting out etc. It gets a hundred times worse if he's excited as well. We would get so mad with him, and still do when it gets too bad. But yet it never stops. 

He's a good boy, and he really enjoys being good, and I really don't think it's naughty or attention seeking behaviour. It doesn't feel like that. Could it be self stimulatory behaviour? He's an angel at school, he's the complete opposite, unnaturally so. 

I hope its ok messaging here. I've done loads of google searches but not getting any answers. 

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    MrsB16 said:

    We would get so mad with him, and still do when it gets too bad. But yet it never stops. 

    Getting mad at him when it suits you may be very confusing for him. Getting mad is something that he may not know how to deal with. Children with autistic spectrum problems react best to environments that are very consistent and predictable. Schools can be very orderly places with very well defined rules that are consistently applied and enforced. Homes can be very chaotic places where he may struggle to work out what the rules are and what happens when he breaks rules or conforms to them. Try and be calm, reasonable, fair and consistent with him. Make rules that he, and everyone else in the house, can keep to. Reward good behaviour and have sanctions (naughty step or a quiet room) that you are prepared to use every time he breaks the rule. 

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    MrsB16 said:

    We would get so mad with him, and still do when it gets too bad. But yet it never stops. 

    Getting mad at him when it suits you may be very confusing for him. Getting mad is something that he may not know how to deal with. Children with autistic spectrum problems react best to environments that are very consistent and predictable. Schools can be very orderly places with very well defined rules that are consistently applied and enforced. Homes can be very chaotic places where he may struggle to work out what the rules are and what happens when he breaks rules or conforms to them. Try and be calm, reasonable, fair and consistent with him. Make rules that he, and everyone else in the house, can keep to. Reward good behaviour and have sanctions (naughty step or a quiet room) that you are prepared to use every time he breaks the rule. 

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