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Marriage and Asperger

Rob3d

Hi,

I am a total newbie to forum chats but I am not in the best place right now with regular panic attacks. I am 40, Married for 15 years with 3 children. I have been diagnosed with Asperger for 13 months now and just finished my 12 months of NHS counselling/therapy. I sought the diagnosis after a really hard time at work lots of long days with great responsibility and no recognition for my efforts. 

This was hard on my family and especially my wife, now a year on my responsibilities and hours are less than they have been in years but a new crisis has fallen. I think that my wife expected a miracle cure after the diagnosis and therapy and although I have improved greatly and can talk to people and go out to busy places. I believe she feels she is burdened with the responsibility of looking after me (even though I have a steady job and I am the main wage earner) as a life long commitment and I will never be the person she wants. It has come to the point where she dose not know if she can do this anymore.

I don't expect miracles I'd just like to not feel so alienated.

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  • hi

    the aspergers team that i have been seeing are the ones who have put me forward for help.  they gave me a list of courses i could go on.  when i got my diagnoses they gave me the option of either leaving it there or progressing.  i chose progressing.  but it was the aspergers team who are helping with the counselling, so maybe you should ask them direct ?  the problem is it is different in every area.  i am very lucky, from first referall by my gp to finla diagnoses was 7 months, which is very quick when i see how other people struggle.

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  • hi

    the aspergers team that i have been seeing are the ones who have put me forward for help.  they gave me a list of courses i could go on.  when i got my diagnoses they gave me the option of either leaving it there or progressing.  i chose progressing.  but it was the aspergers team who are helping with the counselling, so maybe you should ask them direct ?  the problem is it is different in every area.  i am very lucky, from first referall by my gp to finla diagnoses was 7 months, which is very quick when i see how other people struggle.

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