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Marriage and Asperger

Rob3d

Hi,

I am a total newbie to forum chats but I am not in the best place right now with regular panic attacks. I am 40, Married for 15 years with 3 children. I have been diagnosed with Asperger for 13 months now and just finished my 12 months of NHS counselling/therapy. I sought the diagnosis after a really hard time at work lots of long days with great responsibility and no recognition for my efforts. 

This was hard on my family and especially my wife, now a year on my responsibilities and hours are less than they have been in years but a new crisis has fallen. I think that my wife expected a miracle cure after the diagnosis and therapy and although I have improved greatly and can talk to people and go out to busy places. I believe she feels she is burdened with the responsibility of looking after me (even though I have a steady job and I am the main wage earner) as a life long commitment and I will never be the person she wants. It has come to the point where she dose not know if she can do this anymore.

I don't expect miracles I'd just like to not feel so alienated.

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  • Thanks for responding I'm sure we all find it difficult.

    I think we can change but at the same time we dont like change and its a slow process. It's difficult for people to understand.

    My wife championed my cause and that of my son who was just shy of getting the diagnosis, my other son is also dyslexic like me she has had her work cut out for her these last few years. 

    I feel it is early days for both of us, hopefully good will come of it. 

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  • Thanks for responding I'm sure we all find it difficult.

    I think we can change but at the same time we dont like change and its a slow process. It's difficult for people to understand.

    My wife championed my cause and that of my son who was just shy of getting the diagnosis, my other son is also dyslexic like me she has had her work cut out for her these last few years. 

    I feel it is early days for both of us, hopefully good will come of it. 

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