Should I pursue a diagnosis for 5 year old?

Hi, my 5 year old daughter has always shown signs that both me and my husband haven't thought of as "normal behaviour" we have blamed everything from the area we live, the friends she has, our own parenting skills. Everything. But I think we have finally noticed something Is different in her since she has been in her second year at school. 

She finds it hard to hold down friendships. She isn't that shy but cannot maintain relationship ships with people. 

She struggles to control her emotions, she is either completely over excited and can't bring herself back down or at the flick of a finger she is completely devestated and hysterical. 

She doesn't seem to process what we say to her, we have tried so many different ways to communicate with her but it's like she isn't there at times, especially if she is being told off. Some people say every child does this but she is different. She completely shuts down. 

She likes to have a plan for everything she does, she always needs to know exactly what will happen next and if it doesn't go that way she gets upset.  

She can be so angry at times but for no apparent reason.

Has anybody else had these sorts of behaviours and how have you del with it? 

Should I seek support from the GP or does this not sound like asd? 

  • Hello, and welcome. I'm a diagnosed AS person.

    Yes, I recognise those behaviours and yes, I think you should seek a diagnosis.

    The strategy that R'socks recommends is exactly right.

    If you quietly make note of those behaviours that concern you, and the circumstances when they arise (including times/dates/places) then over a period of time (weeks, not years!) you should see a pattern emerging. This should help when you present it as evidence. Also, if you follow some of the excellent advice that you'll find here on coping and dealing strategies, and find them helping, it could help you to understand her more and at the same time inform and reinforce your request for assessment.

    Children are difficult to diagnose, especially girls ( we have serious issues with female diagnosis) so your observations and strategies are crucial to the assessement process for your child. Please do come back and discuss any aspect of your observations that puzzle you. Sadly, no-one here is qualified to offer an opinion as to whether she is AS or not, but what we try to do is feed back and opinionate on those traits and behaviours that we recognise from our own experience, in the hope that we are helping.

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    It is certainly possible that she has ASD. Children's characters do vary a lot and it is not possible from the limited amount of information you have given to be at all confident that ASD is a likely issue. There are other issues that kids can have and the definition of what is normal is not exactly well defined.

    you might find this page describes some of her behaviour?

    http://www.autism.org.uk/about/what-is/pda.aspx

    If she has a problem (i.e. things are so difficult that she needs help) then a visit to the GP would be the next step. It is good to be clear of

    a) Why you think this is a problem - does she get into fights/disagreements or is struggling at school

    b) What signs make you think that ASD might explain her behaviour. This would include some of the stuff that you have already written in your first post but there may be other things that you might think are "odd" in some way.