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Neuro Typicals and communication problems

yellow sunflower

Hello!

Does anybody here suffer with society/neuro typicals who have communication problems/psychological problem themselves? i suffer terribly with people, partly becuse their communication isn't perfect themselves and if they have psychological problems, then it makes it so much harder for somebody with aspergers to process it/deal with it.

I googled why people ignore you-mostly it's things like they didn't see you,they were in a hurry, technology problems,they are in the middle of personal problems, or they don't know what to do, so they do nothing.

But for some people with aspergers, whom have slight/minute lack of social imagination, or parranoia problems/extreem worry due to lack of light in the house/environment-to ignore people and do nothing, leaving someone with aspergers to second guess, is awful. It just makes them go along the self esteem route, worrying if they've done something wrong, or if they're actually liked e.t.c.

And when you do ask the neuro typical about why their ignoring you,they haven't thought-it's usually because they have some bad/negative news- and even then they don't deliver it well and think about how it would make you feel! Appologies if this is a bit ranting-just a bit upset today and had a few examples of bad delivery/people leaving me to second guess/worry silly e.t.c this week!

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    YF,

    How do you work out that the other person has communication problems or other issues? Doesn't that take the sort of insight that we lack? I usually haven't a clue what mental state the other person is in unless I have known them for a long time and even then I'm pretty useless. I think I am learning to set my expectations at a pretty low level, if I manage to communicate the basics then anything on top of that is a bonus.

    I try not to be judgmental about how other people treat me because I really think that i am quite unable to judge their intent or engagement with me. I find that most people are nice and decent human beings and worth the benefit of the doubt until you know them really well. A lot of people are not very bright so they do silly things. It isn't their fault and I set my expectations accordingly.

    CC, I concur about the questions thing. I have incited fury and even the throwing of stuff around the office because I was unable to judge when I had asked too many questions and when my questions were perceived as threatening or undermining when actually all I wanted was some sensible answers.

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    YF,

    How do you work out that the other person has communication problems or other issues? Doesn't that take the sort of insight that we lack? I usually haven't a clue what mental state the other person is in unless I have known them for a long time and even then I'm pretty useless. I think I am learning to set my expectations at a pretty low level, if I manage to communicate the basics then anything on top of that is a bonus.

    I try not to be judgmental about how other people treat me because I really think that i am quite unable to judge their intent or engagement with me. I find that most people are nice and decent human beings and worth the benefit of the doubt until you know them really well. A lot of people are not very bright so they do silly things. It isn't their fault and I set my expectations accordingly.

    CC, I concur about the questions thing. I have incited fury and even the throwing of stuff around the office because I was unable to judge when I had asked too many questions and when my questions were perceived as threatening or undermining when actually all I wanted was some sensible answers.

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