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Neuro Typicals and communication problems

yellow sunflower

Hello!

Does anybody here suffer with society/neuro typicals who have communication problems/psychological problem themselves? i suffer terribly with people, partly becuse their communication isn't perfect themselves and if they have psychological problems, then it makes it so much harder for somebody with aspergers to process it/deal with it.

I googled why people ignore you-mostly it's things like they didn't see you,they were in a hurry, technology problems,they are in the middle of personal problems, or they don't know what to do, so they do nothing.

But for some people with aspergers, whom have slight/minute lack of social imagination, or parranoia problems/extreem worry due to lack of light in the house/environment-to ignore people and do nothing, leaving someone with aspergers to second guess, is awful. It just makes them go along the self esteem route, worrying if they've done something wrong, or if they're actually liked e.t.c.

And when you do ask the neuro typical about why their ignoring you,they haven't thought-it's usually because they have some bad/negative news- and even then they don't deliver it well and think about how it would make you feel! Appologies if this is a bit ranting-just a bit upset today and had a few examples of bad delivery/people leaving me to second guess/worry silly e.t.c this week!

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  • Often, when I am seeking clarity, I ask questions. I then get accused of some awful things - I'm being vexatious, rude, provocative, I get funny looks, sneers and contemptuous silence, what I don't get is answers - and I never ask difficult questions.

    I concluded long ago that it is NTs who are mired in their mutually supportive unsanity. An old piece of wisdom that I have observed the truth of is 'where ignorance is bliss, 'tis folly to be wise'. In modern parlance (ignorspeak) go with the flow, dude.

    Our struggles to get through a day cannot be understood or recognised by NTs. I get sick of seeing the slogan 'Here to Help' when they mean 'here to be as unhelpful as we can possibly be', because I measure people by what they do, never by what they say.

    Interestingly, on this website, we can only judge people by what they say, and yet I take great comfort in understanding others, such as you for instance, and knowing that in my turn, I'll be understood. NTs are incredibly frightened by truth and honesty, they can even get offended about them, and yet we know that there's absolutely nothing to be scared of in either. Weird.

    I think we all recognise that our 'mental health problems' are the effect of trying to live in an obscure world that is the anithesis of the one we live in. Our minds play hell with us when we're trying to understand, in an information vacuum.

    In their world, acceptable behaviours seem to centre around how much harm they can do to other people in a day, and that's all I've come to expect of them. I can't trust them, I certainly can't believe them because there is no deliberate lie that is beyond them, and they're people who laugh during You've Been Framed because they enjoy seeing other people get hurt.

    They're nuts, frankly, and both their behaviour and their communications are born of this fact. Trying to interact under their rules is just exhausting, but they are incapable of understanding why. Whilst we're running in mental circles trying to understand their mentality, they don't waste a nano-secong trying to understand anyone at all, let alone us! Sun Oblivious, ignorant...

    Keep the faith, spread the word, come here for verbal cuddles.

    Trust me, it isn't you

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  • Often, when I am seeking clarity, I ask questions. I then get accused of some awful things - I'm being vexatious, rude, provocative, I get funny looks, sneers and contemptuous silence, what I don't get is answers - and I never ask difficult questions.

    I concluded long ago that it is NTs who are mired in their mutually supportive unsanity. An old piece of wisdom that I have observed the truth of is 'where ignorance is bliss, 'tis folly to be wise'. In modern parlance (ignorspeak) go with the flow, dude.

    Our struggles to get through a day cannot be understood or recognised by NTs. I get sick of seeing the slogan 'Here to Help' when they mean 'here to be as unhelpful as we can possibly be', because I measure people by what they do, never by what they say.

    Interestingly, on this website, we can only judge people by what they say, and yet I take great comfort in understanding others, such as you for instance, and knowing that in my turn, I'll be understood. NTs are incredibly frightened by truth and honesty, they can even get offended about them, and yet we know that there's absolutely nothing to be scared of in either. Weird.

    I think we all recognise that our 'mental health problems' are the effect of trying to live in an obscure world that is the anithesis of the one we live in. Our minds play hell with us when we're trying to understand, in an information vacuum.

    In their world, acceptable behaviours seem to centre around how much harm they can do to other people in a day, and that's all I've come to expect of them. I can't trust them, I certainly can't believe them because there is no deliberate lie that is beyond them, and they're people who laugh during You've Been Framed because they enjoy seeing other people get hurt.

    They're nuts, frankly, and both their behaviour and their communications are born of this fact. Trying to interact under their rules is just exhausting, but they are incapable of understanding why. Whilst we're running in mental circles trying to understand their mentality, they don't waste a nano-secong trying to understand anyone at all, let alone us! Sun Oblivious, ignorant...

    Keep the faith, spread the word, come here for verbal cuddles.

    Trust me, it isn't you

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