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Neuro Typicals and communication problems

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Hello!

Does anybody here suffer with society/neuro typicals who have communication problems/psychological problem themselves? i suffer terribly with people, partly becuse their communication isn't perfect themselves and if they have psychological problems, then it makes it so much harder for somebody with aspergers to process it/deal with it.

I googled why people ignore you-mostly it's things like they didn't see you,they were in a hurry, technology problems,they are in the middle of personal problems, or they don't know what to do, so they do nothing.

But for some people with aspergers, whom have slight/minute lack of social imagination, or parranoia problems/extreem worry due to lack of light in the house/environment-to ignore people and do nothing, leaving someone with aspergers to second guess, is awful. It just makes them go along the self esteem route, worrying if they've done something wrong, or if they're actually liked e.t.c.

And when you do ask the neuro typical about why their ignoring you,they haven't thought-it's usually because they have some bad/negative news- and even then they don't deliver it well and think about how it would make you feel! Appologies if this is a bit ranting-just a bit upset today and had a few examples of bad delivery/people leaving me to second guess/worry silly e.t.c this week!

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  • I've been watching the latest series of Downton Abbey, and while trying not to cause a hi-jack of this thread, I cannot help but comment on something similar to what you discuss here.

    A lot of Downton Abbey sub-themes have been about misunderstandings. The scriptwriters seem to have a fixation about these little puzzles - everyone playing mind games.

    The one that has my curiosity at the moment is what they are doing to Mr Barrow - is this just suddenly out of the blue just because he is gay? He is getting visibly paranoid as everyone seems to be trying to avoid him or exclude him. Where is this going?

    You are right of course that most people have some sort of social foible, and some are quite severe. The neurotypical world is far from easy, which is one of the reasons, I suspect, that they don't understand the fuss made about being autistic. Its the dear old spectrum - well everyone gets that problem once in a while.................

    And that in turn makes it just a whole lot harder for us, because we encounter lots of atypical neuro-typicals.

    What is quite striking though is the extent to which autism has caught on with scriptwriters. It isn't just Sherlock Holmes - crime series on television have more and more flawed characters, as do lots of other contexts - Doc Martin being an example.

    That might be quite good in the long run if it gets people to be more aware and more understanding, it might in turn help us.

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  • I've been watching the latest series of Downton Abbey, and while trying not to cause a hi-jack of this thread, I cannot help but comment on something similar to what you discuss here.

    A lot of Downton Abbey sub-themes have been about misunderstandings. The scriptwriters seem to have a fixation about these little puzzles - everyone playing mind games.

    The one that has my curiosity at the moment is what they are doing to Mr Barrow - is this just suddenly out of the blue just because he is gay? He is getting visibly paranoid as everyone seems to be trying to avoid him or exclude him. Where is this going?

    You are right of course that most people have some sort of social foible, and some are quite severe. The neurotypical world is far from easy, which is one of the reasons, I suspect, that they don't understand the fuss made about being autistic. Its the dear old spectrum - well everyone gets that problem once in a while.................

    And that in turn makes it just a whole lot harder for us, because we encounter lots of atypical neuro-typicals.

    What is quite striking though is the extent to which autism has caught on with scriptwriters. It isn't just Sherlock Holmes - crime series on television have more and more flawed characters, as do lots of other contexts - Doc Martin being an example.

    That might be quite good in the long run if it gets people to be more aware and more understanding, it might in turn help us.

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