Can anyone help?

Hi. 

I'm a little confused on the usefulness of a diagnosis of Autism, if all the specialists have the attitude  of "It's a mystery", with no concrete recommendations, just vague and wishy why stuff.

 To me it is just that same as saying you have mickey mouse disease.

I have a son with Autism who has major meltdowns sometimes in no reaction to anything happening right then. Mostly repeating a question over and over, getting angrier and angrier. 

Any suggestions? 

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  • Usually someone would have chipped in by now pointing out it is not a disease, mickey mouse or otherwise.

    Meltdowns are a response to sensory overloads, including self imposed spiralling anxiety overloading the information input.

    It doesn't follow, and indeed is unlikely to relate directly "to anything happening right then". But something recent might have been the last straw .... though it can be hard to spot

    I bet you've had bad days, when everything goes wrong. Eventually you've snapped - shown anger, or sheer frustration in a sudden outburst, and then maybe felt a bit better (unless you did it in public in which case you may feel embarrassed).

    Your son is experiencing high levels of "bad day" building up inside, or it is sometimes viewed, his ability to cope with stress has a narrower outlet or bandwidth. Either way it is likely there are many causalities all building up together. And it will tend to result in meltdowns, and they probably wont make him feel any better. And they may often be in front of others, just making things worse.

    You can do something by trying to find out or understand what issues are a recurring concern, and try to provide answers or resolution, to reduce the number of stress issues. That isn't necessarily easy.

    But if you can solve some worry issues that are easily resolved it might alleviate his capacity to meet the other pressures building up, and he might meltdown less often.

    You don't indicate if he is able to speak, or if he is able to tell you what is worrying him. Sometimes if you can get him to write down all the things that are worrying or distressing him, you can help him go over these and find solutions to some of them.

    But this stuff about spotting triggers, at least in my opinion (others may disagree) is a "red herring" - it misses the point that it is multi-factor, and the so-called trigger may not actually be helpful.

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  • Usually someone would have chipped in by now pointing out it is not a disease, mickey mouse or otherwise.

    Meltdowns are a response to sensory overloads, including self imposed spiralling anxiety overloading the information input.

    It doesn't follow, and indeed is unlikely to relate directly "to anything happening right then". But something recent might have been the last straw .... though it can be hard to spot

    I bet you've had bad days, when everything goes wrong. Eventually you've snapped - shown anger, or sheer frustration in a sudden outburst, and then maybe felt a bit better (unless you did it in public in which case you may feel embarrassed).

    Your son is experiencing high levels of "bad day" building up inside, or it is sometimes viewed, his ability to cope with stress has a narrower outlet or bandwidth. Either way it is likely there are many causalities all building up together. And it will tend to result in meltdowns, and they probably wont make him feel any better. And they may often be in front of others, just making things worse.

    You can do something by trying to find out or understand what issues are a recurring concern, and try to provide answers or resolution, to reduce the number of stress issues. That isn't necessarily easy.

    But if you can solve some worry issues that are easily resolved it might alleviate his capacity to meet the other pressures building up, and he might meltdown less often.

    You don't indicate if he is able to speak, or if he is able to tell you what is worrying him. Sometimes if you can get him to write down all the things that are worrying or distressing him, you can help him go over these and find solutions to some of them.

    But this stuff about spotting triggers, at least in my opinion (others may disagree) is a "red herring" - it misses the point that it is multi-factor, and the so-called trigger may not actually be helpful.

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